janice_lim
New Member
From all the post that I have read, the most common excuse for the guys are : I help my friend this and that. But most of the time its not true.
From my own exprience, my BF (now husband) was calling the chatlines (which were quite 'hot' at that time)and I found out about it when I saw the phone bills. Question him about it, excuse was my friend used my phone to call and he pay me back.
Why can't use their own phones? Cause their GFs will find out. Then what abt me finding out? They all say my GF very understanding one so will understand.
I found out the truth when the next month phone bill came in and this time its calling from his room (my hubby is not very good in covering his tracks). This time I flared up and question him and he still have the nerve to tell me that there are things which is very difficult to communicate to me. I was so hurt and disappointed.
Anyway after that incident, he promised to changed as I started ignoring him and said that he shall not have the right to ever question me what I do in future. And I'm initiating a breakup.
Now after many years of effort, I'm his wife. There's one thing for sure is that when 1 party made a mistake, chances can be given provided that the party is willing to change. If not, whats the point.
Trust is an important factor in a relationship. Once broken, it will takes years to amend and to regain. Please do sincerely forgive (in your heart)and promise never to bring it up again in future arguments. Otherwise the issue will never be solved.
Take care, be strong and have faith......
From my own exprience, my BF (now husband) was calling the chatlines (which were quite 'hot' at that time)and I found out about it when I saw the phone bills. Question him about it, excuse was my friend used my phone to call and he pay me back.
Why can't use their own phones? Cause their GFs will find out. Then what abt me finding out? They all say my GF very understanding one so will understand.
I found out the truth when the next month phone bill came in and this time its calling from his room (my hubby is not very good in covering his tracks). This time I flared up and question him and he still have the nerve to tell me that there are things which is very difficult to communicate to me. I was so hurt and disappointed.
Anyway after that incident, he promised to changed as I started ignoring him and said that he shall not have the right to ever question me what I do in future. And I'm initiating a breakup.
Now after many years of effort, I'm his wife. There's one thing for sure is that when 1 party made a mistake, chances can be given provided that the party is willing to change. If not, whats the point.
Trust is an important factor in a relationship. Once broken, it will takes years to amend and to regain. Please do sincerely forgive (in your heart)and promise never to bring it up again in future arguments. Otherwise the issue will never be solved.
Take care, be strong and have faith......