Perhaps Jack didnt phrase his words properly....
Sex is essential in a marriage. Hate to say that but it is true. When one cannot find in it the marriage, chances are they will look elsewhere for it. And to make things worst, imagine a sexually deprived person being tempted with sex.
To be frank, nothing is right or wrong in this. Just a matter of how individual look at it.
Yes, a husband should stay committed to a marriage even without sex, esp due to certain circumstances like pregnancy, illnesses etc. That is morally correct. But it is also dependant on one's moral values. Some men think it is ok by having paid sex with another without emotions involved. Some think that paid sex is better than begging the wife for sex. Some think that paid sex is alike paying for a maid to relieve the wife of duties. hahaha... ironical but there are men who really think so.
Ask ourselves honestly, how many times have we reject our husband's advances? It could be due to many many valid reasons. But these reasons are only valid to ourselves. Sometimes the men just don't get it. They only feel offended when they get rejected. Too many of such cases will reslut in the men not even wanting to ask for sex.
It is a very wide scope coupled with many other factors involved. We can say that marriage is not just about sex, then the men can say that sex is just sex with no strings attached.
Remmeber, men and women are made differently. Men see it as a need and sex is just sex as an act. Women see it as a emotional thing. We love then we have sex. totally two different thing.
Marriage is about staying committed. About adjusting each other's expectations and demands. Both parties must be willing to do that. If one party doesn't, then it is difficult to continue. And when the husband stray, please blame your own husband instead of the other woman. Remember, the other woman will ALWAYS be around. If the husband is not committed, chances are he will find 2nd one even if the current other woman leaves.
Oops, and BTW, try catch the movie "Love Matters" with your hubby. All of my married frens including myself found so much truth in the show.
There was one scene where the husband asked the wife "You are my wife, you don't give me (sex) then what do I do? Go out and find?"
Then another scene had this. "You men are like these. Give people present got motive. Valentine's Day, valentine's day i must have sex with you, what so special about Valentine's Day? I don't get off day on Valentine's Day. (Still have to mop, clean house, care for kids etc)"