Does anyone here divorce peacefully w/o kids?
How to overcome divorce??! Feel so lonely at times even though I did go out with friends/colleagues. But sometimes just wish someone can love me as well.
I am trying to accept this fact..I won't say peacefully. Mine was uncontested and we mutually agreed on all things so it is straight forward (but trying to talk to each other calmly is not easy). No matter how both sides agree to handle it calmly, when it comes to money and divorce, it takes a toll on both parties. If can, don't go for contested so that it won't drag too long. The longer it drags, the more emotional it gets.... During the process and after that, I cried till my tears dried. But divorce without kids is slightly easier as you do not have to fight for the custody. We are also not needed to be present at the court. You do need to take care of yourself and try to move on after that. Take care!
Mine totally disappeared and remained uncontactable and not even visiting the children when our divorce proceedings has not even started.
How would u contested or uncontested now?
How u filed? How u know its uncontested? The lawyer told u?Uncontested...
Aa good lawyer will ask to Take evidence of cohibiting,, so that he wont be able to contest the reason for divorceSpoke to a lawyer...Thinking of going for uncontested divorce.
He moved out to stay with the vixen.
How u filed? How u know its uncontested? The lawyer told u?
I open up to him on my feelings and he is like escaping now. I suggested we talk about it as to where we are heading now since I m leaving and he keep dragging the talk.
I don’t know how to deal with him anymore except to just move on if he still doesn’t wanna talk about it.
uncontested is when you both agree to the terms.. example in the division of the flat and who will have the custody of the kids. if either one is not agreeable, then it will be a contested one.
my husband want to share himself with the both of us.. he wants me to split 50/50 with us both.. as in time.. he wants me to give him spend time with her 3days overnight with her. and the rest is for me and kids.. ridiculous it think.. the thought of him meeting the woman once a week already makes me uncomfortable... he still want me to let him stay over with her for 3days. i cant imagine if there are any wives who will do this? up till now he is still fabricating fairytale story (as in he can have both woman together)
Ya.. Dat y till now he still dreaming to have both stay by his side..Hello...It is not the animal world where a male lion can have 2-4 women by himself.
Ask him to stop daydreaming.
Yes he is.. he not giving me the flat. He also want the kids.. saying he take the kids is for my good.. say I can't afford to raise the kids..
Ya.. Dat y till now he still dreaming to have both stay by his side..
Lol...he still in fairytale story..Not like in ancient China where a man can have concubines.
Ask him to wake up his ideas.
Lol...he still in fairytale story..
Which woman can accept unless he is super rich and can well provide u for the family?
He definitely wants the best of both worlds.
Judging from what you post, I think most likely you have to go contested.
As for custody, the 9 yo most likely goes to you but the 12 yo might be able to decide for himself. This you have to ask your Lawyer.
At the meantime, please keep a close bond with your children. Looks like your Hb is going to contest you with almost everything.
Legal costs will be expensive for contested divorce. I have a friend who was contesting for his kids’ custody rights and gave up when the legal fees reaches $80k.
Are you a SAHM? Are you eligible for legal aid?
Lol.. my husb still wan to b wei siao bao.. hahaInitially, my ex wants both of us too. I told him “you think you are China emperor”?
Yours is long term marriage so definitely you will get a bigger share of the house but don’t expect 100% as the judges now is unlike last time.
Just to share with you, my 3 kids are under my care n control so I keep the house and I purchase it from him by refunding partial of his Cpf back to his account. Even then the court only award me 60% of the house. Zero maintenance for myself n 1.3k maintenance for the 3 kids (currently all under 7). The judge saw that my earning power is higher then my ex hence I was not been ordered then what I expects. However I m grateful that I got to keep the flat n minimize any changes to the kids.
Are you working? Are you able to take over the flat should you are only awarded part of the house? Only the parent with care n control is able to keep the flat forming a family nucleus. All these you got to work it out.
Meanwhile please keep all receipts for the expenses of the family. N keep track of the expenses n keep a record. It will b very useful in time to come.
Arm yourself with family legal laws. Some lawyers won’t be so thorough n its best you yourself is equipped with some knowledge also. If really go contested, it’s best you prepare your own affidavits n let your Lawyer amend it thereafter as no one knows your own matters better then yourself.
Not sure.. shld be return to cpfCan we use CPF to return him CPF? Or it must be in cash?
Shld b our cpf money. This I have to chk with my lawyerI mean can we use our own CPF to return to his CPF account? Or we must use our cash to return to his CPF account?
Jess I did that to my husband and end up he said he cannot forgive for doing that to himGive him 2 tight slaps to wake him up.
Jess I did that to my husband and end up he said he cannot forgive for doing that to him
is this thread still active? i am also looking into divorce with my husband as he has an affair. i have been married to him for 13yrs and have 2 kids age 9 and 12. he wants me to accept his lover and coexist together. which i find i am not able to accept her. my husband does not want to let her go as he says he love her and me too. he also doesnt want to divorce
hmm he doesn’t think he deserved the 2 slaps cos I make him lose his dignity and didn’t respect him so he told after that 2 slaps no more chance of any reconciliation between us.Why not?He deserves it...
I don't just want to slap him but want to kick his family jewels
Cannot use Cpf.
Either cash or bank loan.
For my case, I took over the outstanding loan of current flat n refinance my house n took up the amount needed to refund back to his Cpf as well. So I loan as a total n repay back every month.
Thank you for the link!
From my scenario, what agendas do you see?
For court order, as long as the word “purchase” is used, you would need to pay 20% down payment for taking over the house if u using bank loan. So my court order is “transfer the house other then by way of sale” with refund partial Cpf back to him. The refund back to his Cpf cannot use our Cpf. Can only use cash or mortgage loan. This part you have to check with banker very carefully as some lawyers also not familiar when comes to conveyancing.
As for the outstanding loan of the house, can use our Cpf to finance the house.
D reason y I didn’t touch my OA for the house cos every year I can earn 4% interest from Cpf whereas my bank loan for the hse is only 1.4% per year. N my OA I keep it for my kids tertiary education in future as I can utilize part of my OA for education. If I m not wrong is 40% of OA.
So for all these please plan according to your comfort.
If it's prc den at least I know mayb bcos of money.. but my husb is involve with a local 26yo.. my husb also not rich.. the woman says love my husb.. blah blah.. n my husb say love her bcos he got the feel like our park tor period that kind of love..Just let the guys be...
The PRC will be stripping them of their money and dump them.
And we will be enjoying our life without all these liabilities and burden
I also wish to go to the woman hse n tell her mum what her daughter has done to other ppl family.. home wrecker.. I have her address.. so wish to print out phamplets n put into all letter box in her estate.. but think this is illegal.. get caught bcos of this den not worthWent out to eat secretly not shameful meh?
If I could,I would also want to expose his deeds outside.