Hi Droopy Eyes
Thanks for sharing... i read your story and glad that you have gone through it and have a happy ending now with your baby. May I know how soon you got pregnant after delivering your boy at Week 21 ? Everyone tells me to wait 6 mths before I can try except my gynae who says 3 mths is good enuf. I cant wait to be pregnant again, yet there is this change of feelings (sometimes you feel desperate, sometimes u feel its fated that you will not have kids, so dont try..) Will share my story below as I had similar case like Sylvia.
Sylvia
I also lost my recent pregnancy at 23 weeks due to incompetent cervix on 20 Sep 06. When I read this forum for support, I can totally understand how you feel and the collapse of the world.
After 1/2 a yr of trying to ttc without success, I consulted fertility specialist (as i have v bad menses, sometimes absent for a year or 2-3 times a year and have PCOS) and got pregnant after 3 mths of clomid. Unfortunately, it ended up ectopic and my left tube was partially 'damaged'. This means, I am left with right tube for pregnancy. It was a bad enuf blow but I moved on courageously.
I changed gynae and luckily got pregnant 2mths later with clomid & injections in April 06.
The pregnancy went on fine and smooth, no morning sickness, no excessive weight gain and I was absolutately radiant (according to colleagues). Had some bleeding at week 11, but was sorted out as it was just the edges of placenta that was 'excess' sheding. Baby boy was always so active and cute on the scan, wave to us everytime we scan. Even gynae says he is v active.
Unfortunately, I have another problem which I didnt knew. I have an incompetent cervix which gave way at week 20. When I had some weird discharge like mucus blood (which i read was a cervix plug that closes the cervix), I called the doctor & was asked to go to the hospital. When i was warded, membrane/ water bag was already bulging out into the vagina. Yes, I was in labour!
Was hospitalised to stablise condition (v traumatic as they hang your leg up higher than head, hoping that water bag will go back into womb) before Dr put in an emergency cerlcage to tie up the cervix abt 3 days later. By then, it was already 8 cm dilated. Anyway, dr did tell me I have v little cervix left to 'sew up' and thus need complete bedrest to at least 28 weeks before foetus can have higher chance of surviving normally. I managed to tahan 3 more weeks before the stitch gave way and i was bleeding profusely with intense contractions, I had to deliver my poor baby boy at 23 weeks. The baby was in a good condition when delivered and he was kept alive in NICU. HOwever, after hearing from all doctors and professionals, 23 weeks is too premie and may have long term effects like blindness, hearing loss & etc along the way. No amt of tests can confirm it at this stage. After discussion with hubby, we decided to give up our baby after 3 days he was in NICU. It was such a painful & traumatic experience.
All the while, I consult my TCM and gynae concurrently with this pregancy. In fact, just a couple of days before, went for my routine with TCM and gynae and none could detect that its so soon. Gynae detected soft cervix and took some samples to test for infection and b4 test results came out, already ot of no return. TCM says I am having a perfectly healthy pregnancy, so guess its fated.
Now, I am in my ups and downs. At times, I feel like getting pregnan NOW and get a cerclage as soon as I can. At times, I told myself I shldnt do it again and kill innocent lives. I also started talking to adoption agencies as I think this may help me to move on. I told my gynae abt my intention and he thinks its quite a pity as I am v near having my own child. I get so lost that I also ask for lot in the Waterloo Street Temple. The lot says bad as in I shld be contented with what I have and no pt trying for something not fated. Then I think back, the last round I ask for a lot too and was good, but still I lost my baby boy? My confidence gets shaken too. However, my fren who reads tarot cards says future bright for having my own children. Maybe I should not be so 'superstitious' which normally I am ok, but maybe I am lost at this stage.
Sylvia, I also have this right ovay tingling pain like you! Have been searching internet for answers but no infor until I read your condition. Did your TCM say why? My TCM says its prob 'time' of the month where ovary trying to get things 'right'. I have my first period 3 weeks after my delivery, q heavy. My gynae has given me medicine to induce my 2nd period but it hasnt come yet. Gynae says to try after 3rd period. How abt you? Are you still trying?
Good for your baby!
