Hi cody,
Your son is so cute. Yes is so sad to have such happening for a friend.
You are right, when you are pregnant you are not suppose to anyhow take chinese herb. With qualified chinese physician they will not anyhow prescribe chinese herb for you too.
Just let you know before my pregnancy I have seen this chinese physician, she is from tongji hospital specialised in solving woman problem. I have pcos and not ovulating and not even have those white mucus but after taking her herb, I find myself stronger and even has white mucus which show I'm more fertile. Maybe that's why I went to try for IUI, I succeed for my 1st cycle. (I took her herb for around 9 month as the same time taking metformin, she told me to take her herb at night and metformin during day)
When I'm pregnant and at my later stage of 1st trimester, I went to see her, she refuse to prescribe anymore herb for me, she told me now cannot anyhow take herb liao only can take herb during the 1st few weeks of the pregnancy to make the worm stronger then cannot take liao. So I find her really careful and with her experience she know what cannot take.
That's why I don't advise self medication for chinese herb, must with qualify chinese physician so i think you should not against trying the chinese herb
I still feel that you can see a qualified chinese physician to nourish your body and try for your 2nd one and I think since you have your 1st one, by nourish your body you should have much higher chance to have a baby for your next round.
Just FYI. My sister's colleague who have PCOS, she miscarriage for her 1st pregnancy and 2nd pregnancy she got an ectopic. Then she see this chinese physician from Tong ji and took her herb for 1 year and try naturally and now she has a healthy baby boy. (her boy should be 1 year plus by now). She is the one who recommend this chinese physician to me