I thought I would find a support group here and I saw a few on divorced or single parent/mum support groups.
I guess after going thru a failed marriage with someone whom u started off in love with, ended up in quarrels so bad, it got violent. At least tat was wat happened to me. I noe many cases here r of husbands having affairs, visited prostitutes or haing prc gf. I got abused. And in fear tat he might to our child, I left my marriage. I tout I could keep the family tog if I worked hard enuff, even though I was bearing most of the family's burdens and bills. I thought I can juz forgive him coz it could have been my own temper or my stubbornness. But it dawned to me tat he was juz a useless man who always wanted the easy way out of things. Nv could stay on in a job long coz he wasn't happy in it or his boss or something. He was always too gd for anyone, anything. I got fed up and tired of this, plug up my courage and left the house, tog with my gal.
Though I m housing with my parents, they take gd are of my gal. I'm a happier person coz now I make my own decisions. I don't feel heart pain when all my pay goes to paying someone else's bills and debts every month. Though my own r also heavy, now tat I'm alone. Im seeing someone who noe about my past, my gal and accepts me for who I m and loves me becoz of it. Respects me and supports me in wat I do. Wat happens btw us in the future I won't noe now. But it's definitely not easy for a man to accept child tat's not his own. We're working on it.
I m a believer tat how modern we r now, it is not easy for single mums to get 2nd chances. I've heard of 3 so far. How bout u?