Cheerymum,
Initially during the first week my #1 was quite loving and will try to sayang didi, but his actions were so rough, he appeared to be hitting didi instead, altho I think his intend wasn't to hit didi. We will always get so worried and tell him "eh eh, gentle gentle." Kor kor heard it got upset, and will end up crying coz' he thought we were scolding him. Maybe we over reacted. 2nd week, he began to get more mischievous, and started to pull didi's legs and mittens. I'll be happy if my #1 wants to help, but he didn't. Maybe boys react differently to a sibling compared to girls,who are typically more social and loving.
My maid will be coming to our house tomorrow evening. Actually, not only the maid herself will feel stressful going to an employer's place to work, we as employers, even my mum are already getting little stressed as we also worried how long we all need to adapt to each other. I got a Philippino maid, not Indonesian mainly because Muslims has diet constraints.
Jaclyn,
I use normal pillow when breast feeding instead of buying the breastfeeding cushion.