hi mummies
how's everyone been? quite some time since i last visited or posted here. had some terrible maid experiences recently and really boh tah han, but must let off steam here. also feel that i should share it so that everyone learns from my experience. do hope that those who are employing maids or who are about to employ maids to be v.v.careful.
here goes my long story!!
my current maid wanted to go back coz work here 3 years already, wanna go back to be with family. went to agency and said i wanted a fresh one from indo, never been here b4 coz heard ex sing. maids sometimes can b diff to handle. interview this freshie n on webcam seems ok and say can handle bb and handled her own child till 1 yr old.
in the end when she came here, 1 day only, can see she's totally clueless. i told her my boy poo poo must change his diaper and clean him up. she didn't even know that to open his diaper must remove the tapes, she tried to rip it off him. i screamed and told her that she's handling a toddler not an adult, must be more careful. thankfully my boy's older now, if new born, can imagine how rough it would be on the bb's skin?
2nd thing, she took out the disposable diaper and after that ask me, must wash the diaper? i fainted and told her the diaper must throw, cannot wash. by then steaming mad already.
3rd thing, she lifted my boy up when he was crying from the arms, didn't support him on his torso to carry him up. that was v.dangerous coz can easily fracture his arms. scolded her again.
but each time i scold her, she just look blankly or look away, as if like don't understand what i say. dunno if she's just plain dumb or stubborn.
4th thing, on day 2 morning, she happily told him how to play with the fan. can you imagine that? what if he were to poke his finger into the fan? no sense of danger. screamed and told her off. also, make milk also can put fingers into the milk powder to scoop the milk, so unhygenic. told her many times still make same mistake.
by day 3, still no improvement and even repeat same mistake - pack her back to agency immediately. btw, told her to pack her things, she also stare blankly, dunnno how to pack.requested agency if have gd transfer maid who can understand english.
here goes story for maid no.2 - the new transfer maid
went to interview her and she was v.eloquent, can speak EL and even understand CL. told her she needs to work fast n be honest when she's here. she was all out to please. taught at least i've found someone who has brains and is more 'teacheable' than the wooden block.
maid 2 comes with great promise n at a pricey salary as well. day 1 still ok. can understand and handle housework and my boy relatively ok. but wasn't in a habit to greet so told her to be more polite.
when my hubby came back, went to take his shower and came out. my transfer maid eye ball him with man hunt eyes. i got a shock. i knew i wasn't imagining but i could see that she doesn't have gd intentions.
called my mum to complain, she told her that my transfer maid told her maid that she came here to look for husband. she alr have 2 kids back in indo and still on man hunt.
best still, she told my mum's maid she cannnot work fast, her previous employer let her do whatever she want. even say that she don't like to wear loose pants, she like to wear tight pants. plus, today caught her trying to cut corners, told her off and she gave me black face. made 2nd mistake and told her to do it properly, she still continue until i raised my voice then she compiled but her face was super black.
she also ask me if i wanna drink without even greeting me. told my hubby - excuse me when giving the food. no proper manners to even greet her employers.
so gonna return her tonite coz cannot tahan already. if let her stay, wait if she go find boyfriend here how? also, can see she's not sincere in working at all.
best part now.... i'm left without a maid and i still need to work. i'm at a loss now. boy's in half day childcare, i can't bear to extend full day child care coz he knows routine that by afternoon i'll come to pick him up so come late morning onwards, he'll sit at the gate and refuse to go back classroom. he'll wait and play there patiently until i come. on leave these few weeks to help him adjust to childcare....
if i extend to full day childcare, my heart will break if he sits at the gate hours on end, waiting for me to pick him up after work in the evening.
so... totally at a loss with no options now... heart breaking up but dunno what to do.
