medusa
hmmm.... the dispute is not becos we *hubby & me* are tired, its just tat we share different view *half of the time* and especially tat nite!! i just find tat its USELESS letting quinn scream his lungs out becos hes just too exhausted and NOT plain TANTRUMS!!
oh dear, hope both Athena and Irvin get well really soon!! u must be very tired yah! quinns pd also talk to me about the goat milk when previously quinns cough is really bad and phlegmy but me didnt change his FM lah but i tik its quite a good choice. lots of my frens toddlers taking tat now
pcs
for tat particular incident, i guess hubby is the wan who cant take it easy and even tell me maybe i want to leave quinn and him alone in the room *while quinn is still screaming and crying* and i seriously dun see eye to eye with his way of hadling such situation tat nite *hubby not doing this all the time* and i simply refuse to leave the room of cos!!!!!
angelia
i can understand how u feel when shanice prefers popo than mummy / daddy. let me tell u about mine. i use to feel tat quinn much prefer my hubby than me,as he will always ask me "wheres papa" but when me not ard, he will still ask about me but not as much and also he prefers to play with hubby too. BUT after some tots, i think quinn just prefer hubby as PLAYMATE as hubby can play rough with him, like spinning him round and round, hanging him upside down, throwing him high up into the air and such, while i cant perform all these BUT when it comes to sleeping / feeding time, quinn will come to me and he will even say "i dun want papa, i want mummy only" so i guess its not about whether he prefers papa or mummy, its just tat he knows WHO to go to for certain activities
for ur case, i cant comment much since i dun know the details but i really think tat toddlers CAN sense alot of things ard them, including people ard them. maybe when u are handling her, u are not as patient? and maybe theres other reasons? or theres something u did previously to her and she still remember? and sometimes constantly using of certain words can be scary / hurtful for toddlers too. and i really think tat kids are very straight forward, they will always prefer someone who treats them better or play with them. i dun know, i might be wrong but when i observed my nephew and quinn, they do like those people who really adore them / play with them / spend time with them.....
for shanice waking crying. theres a period of time when quinn behaved tat way too. my mum use to say it could be due to too much stimulation prior bedtime but theres certain days when hes not having any EXCITING hours and he still woke up crying, kicking, screaming BUT NOT allowing anyone to touch him. after spoken to pd, his answer is tat quinn was experiencing NIGHT TERROR. toddlers will not fully knows wats going on and even after they settle down and goes back into sleep, they will not rem. a thing after they woke up. not like nitemare,which sometimes they can still recall wat they dreamt of and even can tell u about it *if they are able to communicate with u* and NIGHT TERROR usually occurs when a toddler is OVERLY tired too. and also another to differenciate betwwen NIGHT TERROR / NIGHTMARE is also the TIMING. N.T usually occurs in the early hours after a child goes to bed while N.M is during the latter part of their sleep.
ruffybear
yap!! 2 hands up!!!! me also believe tat bedtime should NOT be stressful, though theres some days when it just head for the NOT SO easy moments. but i still believe in wat i believed. but dun know wat got into hubbys mind tat nite!?? quinns sleeping pattern is quite okie *for me lah* goes to bed at ard 10pm then up at ard 9 / 10am then nap at ard 2 plus pm. but of cos theres certain days more haywired, not all the time. so i usually will try to correct it back slowly, maybe take up to few days but i am fine with tat.
berry
for wat had happen tat nite, i did takl to hubby about it. i told him tat i really dun agreed on wat he did. i even told him tat i dun believe in SPOILING quinn!!!! hubby says we CANT constantly GIVE IN to wat he wants! and i ask him why he thinks tat we are constantly GIVING IN? as for me, i DUN punish quinn *physically or verbally as in SUPER harsh words* does not mean tat i am giving in to him all the time. theres soooo many ways, like explaining and even have a good talk with quinn or even come out with something tat both toddle and parents are happy about it. i really hate it when he goes "u will spoiled him"!!!! i seriously DUN tik i am lor! imagine if quinn slap me on my face, i DUN just smile at him or just ignore his act NOR i will return him a slap. most of the time i will just look at him, giving him a serious look and tells him tat wat he did is NOT right and it HURTS! does tat mean i am spoiling him!!!!?????? giving PUNISHMENT is the only way, mayeb its just a SHORTCUT??? i mean quinn did went thru a HITTING phase but its sort of over now. it takes quite awhile, longer than i expect it to be BUT its okie, at least he stop doing it due to he understand "it hurts" and NOT out of fear *tat he will get spanks from mummy / daddy* and to be, its really CRAZY if ones thinks tat toddler SHOULD knows wats rite and wrong, even if we get them to understand NOW, they will soon forget about it and tats when we need to constantly remind them. hmmm...... me sound sooooo MAD hor!!??
and for tat ignoring his crying / screaming before bedtime and insisting he must stay in the room and fall asleep i really find its abit *OFF* lor!
SORRY mummies, im just too work up lah!!! and all above is base on my own method and not saying tat its the RIGHT way as everyone has their own way with their children and different methods works on dufferent child so theres no right and wrong.
