Hi Nitro
sorry to hear about both you and your wife's loss..I too lost my bb at week 11/12 (bb stopped growing at week 8 or 9-frm my 2nd fresh cycle)
1) Can't help cos not with kk..
2) If going for the test helps for you to find out, just go for it.--Apparently it's a higher rate of miscarriage for bb's with ivf/icsi procedures--cos of chromosome/genetic defect..sad but true
3) As what Adeline suggested, it's good to have at least 1 cycle or 2 or get a green light from your doc-depending on individual body before next treatment. Do your wife have any frozen embryos left? If she has then good that can proceed to FET direct no need endure all the jabs and ER/ET again.
4) It might not be the whole total full confinement but no hard and fast rule..but for me i think no harm try at least 2 weeks (i did 2 weeks mini-confinement)- drink Longan red date tea, keep warm esp feet, chicken essence, DOM/bazhen, TCM (if any), food with ginger, avoid cold/raw food ie. sashimi/sushi etc
5) Yes in fact if D&C is not done properly, might leave scars in the womb which cause infertility. If possible, try to opt for natural miscarriage or miscarriage with pills. But still depends on individual preference and also if she is the type who can endure pain- from experience, plus point is that it's natural and when done, go for scan to see if everything's clear in womb. Downside- you don't know when it'll happen as in when the pain will come it might be late into the night (like my case) and last a few hours. So do what you both feel comfy about.
6) Definitely good sign that she is able to get pregnant.
7) Hmm your wife's case actually bb considered too small..might be a just a sac..so hospital might just dispose as 'medical bio-waste' but you can check with kk and ask about the procedure if you really want to cremate.
it takes really a long while for my husband and myself to get over it..and even now, whenever we look at the only picture and scan we have of our bb, we can find tears in our eyes again. Just have to fight on and do what we can for now i suppose..and what will come, will come in time to come..hope this helps
Adeline
Congrats on your pregnancy..all the best!