Support group - Miscarriages

Una,
Ya, not over worry. Mind set can affect out hormones n ovulation too.
Since we already seen treatment, meantime we stay relax n positive.

My IUI fail... Period started few day ago.
Got go back for a trial on Thursday. Hoping everything is fine.
Jiayou!!
 


Celest,

Never mind, try again!!! Everything will be fine!
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Princess,
Oh yay...
Didn't think too much nor places any hopes, so damage not so bad. Hahaha!

How u girls? Long time no heard u girls...
Sudden tis tread become quiet, but happy too loh. Confuse. Lol
 
Celest,

don't Give up!! Try again!! Jiayou!! Its like a warm up and second time with more experience about your body, your gynae will help u strike... stay positive... we will be mummies this year!!!
 
Min, Jhw, princess,
Blessed me... Thanks for the courage.
Oh yes. I'm trying for 3 consecutive mth.

Next mth aft the cny, I'm going bkk for shopping!
Now I'm only looking foward to it. Relax myself aft the crazy cny gathering.
Been 1 year not visiting my mil, felt such a pressure to see her again.
Duno wat she might bring up or react once she see me again.
 
Celest,

I read online, trying consecutively increase the chances too. Good luck!!

Its good to go relax. Enjoy!!

I am also thinking about the awkward situation during reunion dinner. Dunno how to deal with it.
 
Princess,
Hope so too... But I dun place any hope. Numb to everything now. Hehe!
Was thinking, pregnant then it a blessing, if dun have we still can live with our hubby happily ever after. Lol...

Ya loh. Been thinking of visiting her before the cny reunion.
Least on that day itself, wouldn't be weird... But until now I still can't find the courage to go.
Last year, the now I'm pregnant, this year, I'm still trying. Haiz!
 
Life so unfair. Those women who will die for a child, couldn't strike.
Those doesn't want at all, they try ways to abort their bb.
I regret for not marry early... Haiz!
 
true, celest
i agree with u,

teenagers who anyhow anyhow sleep, got pregnant.
but married couples who dying to have child, cannot have one...
Why like that??
I also very depressed.
especially this morning, a Colleague kinda "cursed" me...
I shared "The Secret" with one of my colleagues, We were very close.
Then few weeks ago, they were talking about a Department trip. I said i cannot go because at that time, i will be in 2WW or Waiting for News (by estimate)... and If I preggy, then i cannot go......If i Not Preggy, then i can go....

Then this morning, she told me she finished reading "The Secret", And She wish for Me To Be able to go for the Department Trip with them.

Then i say so it means U wish for me Not to be Preggy?

She show me this --> :p

So What does it mean? Really Sickening..
because of this i refused to talk to her the whole day today.
 
Celestine,

Don't think too much k.. Hugz.. My af reported today, this cycle no gd news for me too..

Chanced upon a thread the other day.. This lady at 3 mths preggy was asking if she should consider quitting smoking (she even has to think abt it?????).. She said she see many of her friends smoke thru whole pregnancy and their kids are all healthy and smart.. Told my hubby and he said the same thing, it's really unfair.. Guess we just have to learn to deal with it..
 
Jhw,
Omg! How could she say all this! Some ppl really insenitive at all.
Sorry, for this I wouldn't consider her as a fren. She just another selfish fellow.

Min,
Sorry hear abt it... Let Jiayou again!!
The more we pin hope, the more damage we will have.
Chose to have a numb feeling, as we are already doing our bests.

Those idiot mother to be, duno wat they thinking abt.
Smoker will have to be harder to concieve, yet she strike n dun cherish the little one.
Pity their bb... They totally inncocent.
Believe tat we will be the best mother...
 
Celest, min,

Just recently before xmas period, i saw an auntie in bedok interchange. She is pregnant, think 6 mths, smoking happily away, shouting at her elder son at the same time, and his elder son taking in her passive smoke.
I was damn angry looking at this scene and i cannot do anything
 
Celest

Ya, can u imagine i share The Secret with her... oso hope that she can lead a good life with that.. my goodwill has become something that cause me harm!!! Shit her!!
 
Celest,

True, life is so unfair. Never mind, HE is putting us to the tests, we will surpass he tests & reached the goal eventually. We will be better & tougher mothers!!
 
Its confirm a missed miscarriage. no growth since last week. tom will be the d&c.

Thanks for sharing the stories. my hb n i are taking it positively. will arrange to c dr su two weeks later. ask my hb to stop the brew medicine from thong ji. Not happy w their tcm as the sinseh didnt tell us what happen aft taking pulse n just ask my hb to take medicine.left me clueless what is wrong w both of us.

How long did you ladies carry out the mini confinement? only given 1 week mc. thinking to take confinement food even when bk work.
 
Hi CJC

Reading your post reminded me of my situation few years ago. Same case, supposed to be 8 weeks but baby too small. They cant locate. And doc said maybe it was ectopic. I almost broke down when I heard that. I was sent in for a thorough scan, and for 20 mins, they scanned and finally found a really tiny sac. Then doc said, baby was growing slowly, but the next few months, my baby was right on track.
 
hi hlife

I wish its been like ur case but no heartbeat nor growth was found. my preggy symptom had also went down. well, will try again this yr once i tune my health back.
 
CJC,

Sorry to hear that.

You can do 2 weeks mini confinement. I believe mc cannot be extend. I was given 2 weeks initially, then my spotting came on and off, so doc gave me another 2 weeks.

Take care!
 
Hi ladies, been reading silently for a while. My gynae remains optimistic after my recent miscarriage, he said, it proves we are capable of conceiving naturally, while researching TTC after miscarriage, I came upon this - http://www.pregnancyloss.info/sperm_meets_egg_plan.htm

It's a plan that's been developed for couples suffered miscarriages to maximise the chance of fertilization and conception. Just thought I'd share it here.

The Sperm Meets Egg Plan

- "Try" every other night starting Day 8
- Buy 10 ovulation predictor kit sticks
- Begin ovulation testing on Day 10
- When test is positive, "try" that night, plus two additional nights in a row
- Skip one night, then do one last "try"
- Take a home pregnancy test 15 days after your ovulation test was positive, if your period has not begun
- If your ovulation test never goes positive, continue "trying" every other night until Day 35, then do a pregnancy test if your period has not begun.

Statistics coming in from women who write me show that about 40% of post-miscarriage women will get pregnant on the first try if they are faithful to the plan, about double the number of the normal population who are not on the plan. This assumes, of course, that you waited for a normal cycle to begin after your loss, and did not begin trying before having a period after a miscarriage. Many women do not ovulate in that first cycle.

Apparently the success rate is about 40% among couples who have suffered mc before, best wishes to those who are TTC-ing now!
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By the way, any idea how to report a spammer in the forum?
 
Jo78,
Thanks for sharing, but there a doubt on it wor.
It mention have sex alternative night starting day10. Come to ovulatate, have sex for 2 night...
By the time on day 10 onward, sperm will reduce wor.
But anyway no harm trying too... Since we already try all method. Hehe!
 
jo78,

Thanks for sharing. But I dun think it will work for everyone. For my HB, he had troops quantity issue, so doc dun recommend to BD everyday. We are recommended to BD alternate days.
 
Actually, i joined this secret facebook group and one of the gals raised a topic about wearing rose quartz and moonstone that help with fertility because of the stones natural healing properties. U gals may want to try buying to wear... can be found in any fengshui shops.. be sure to benchmark before u buy... if u ask me, the fengshui booth in bishan junction 8 has reasonable price
 
my hb has quality n quantity issue thus that is oredi hard to strike even though we have been bd for the past 2 yr on regular basis. This round actually gave my hb hope that there is still chance of having 2nd child even though it didnt turn out the way expected. i know my hb has been stress ever since he knew that the issue lies w him. we r all puzzle cos he dun smoke, drink n has healthy lifestyle. so i hope tcm can diagnose what went wrong n tiao his body.

Btw dr su need appointment? when can i c her since in just had my d&c?
 
CJC

you could see Dr Su after your bleeding Stop....
first visit got to walk in & register
Second visit -- last time we used to be able to call to grab queue no... But last Saturday, i called and was informed that Dr Su clinic asst do not accept call in anymore...
 
Came across this in mummysg forum not sure if this has been shared before.: taking bean sprout drink

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CJC,

I understand your difficulty. My HB also blamed himself too. Before we see Dr Su, he actually went to Chung Hwa clinic to take medicine and acupucture. His quantity issue improved drastically from 2 mil to 80 mil. But quality issue takes time. Then, when I want to change to Dr Su, he came along with me and stop seeing Chung Hwa. Next month I am going back to gynae for checkup and I am thinking to let him do semen test again to see if Dr Su medicine is helpful. Hopefully the result has improved.
 
Hi princessleopard

Thanks for sharing. my hb has done 3 rds of semen test till we didnt want to know it anymore. quantity did went up a bit aft gynae med but mortility remain the same. so we gave up on gynae med (so exp!) n pin our hope on tcm. At firsty hb didnt wanna try tcm cos he dun take chinese med at all till aft the result frm gynae (& the hole in his pocket) he finally believe in tcm..hah

just to check on confinement food, i be heading bk to work next week n wonder if i can prepare my confinement food the nite before n heat up for lunch the next day? will it cause wind? confinement food delivery is too ex at $418 for 7 days.
 
CJC,

Did gynae prescibe tribestan? Its expensive to buy at the gynae. Currently my hb taking tcm and tribestan. But I bought it directly from USA, its so much cheaper.
 
Good morning ladies! Celest, actually it's:
- Day 8 onwards, alternate days BD
- Start OPK testing daily from Day 10 (BD still alternate days, until +ve OPK)
- once +ve OPK (which means ovulation will occur in next 24 hrs, if I am not wrong), BD for 3 consecutive days
- rest for 1 day, BD again and stop...

Princess, sorry to hear about your DH's problem, our problem lies with morphology of DH which has increased with supplements from doctor as well as TCM (acupuncture and meds), this is my first cycle post-MC so I decided to give it a go. But since yr doctor has recommended your BD on alternate days, I guess it's best to follow that advice.

Have a good day, ladies!
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Princess, my hubby takes tribestan and find it very ex to get from the gynae! can you let me know how you purchase it from US please? thanks a lot

CJC, it's probably not ideal to take overnight food for confinement, some ladies did suggest hawker food that can be confinement food as well, I remember pig's kidney's meesuah is one of them. But do avoid cold drinks and have plenty of rest. Take care *hug*
 
jo78,

I bought from bodybuilding.com this round. Just order 2 days ago, now the price is USD39.90. Do you use vpost services? I use vpost to ship back my orders. Before I order, I also check out TF supplements cos their prices are competitive.
 
hmm..cant recall if its part of my hb gynea med which he use to take 5 diff type of med a month. will check out this thks!
 
Princess, a friend recommended us to use Comgateway, you can order from different vendors and have it sent to your Comgateway address, Comgateway helps you store the purchases that arrive at their site for 30 days and you can bulk-ship back, supposed to be much cheaper this way. I will let hubby know re bodybuilding.com and TF supplements, thanks!!
 
Princess, I have no idea because my hubby is the one who usually place the orders. I think it's only for purchases shipped from the US... You could check from the website? My friend is rather tech-savvy and orders his shoes and his toddler's cloths from the US and ships them all at once, claims it's much cheaper than Vpost wor...
 
Ladies there something I wish to talk out..
Today is my trial IUI session, the same time it my dad scan.
He had bad infection n dr wanted to do a scope for him.
Dr suspect dad had prostrate cancer or just pure infection as his prostrate level is high.
We only know the result at 3 week later. It been such a big blow to me, been crying none stop. Im so tired.
Duno if I shd cancel away my IUI process n focus on my dad first.
 
Celest,

I am very sorry to hear about your dad!!!

Stay strong ...mayb the results will turn out well..

I think u are feeling very stress and emotional now, maybe u can defer your iui for one more month and meanwhile try natural first and focus on your dad matters... because mood may affect iui, i heard...
Maybe treat it as giving yourself a break... otherwise u will be stressed with two matters at the same time... one is your dad, one is iui...
 
Hi gals, I am new here..
I have 3 miscarriages in the past, and now is still with NUH on my recurrent miscarriage follow-up, Dr Sheila found out that I have high level of NK cells which may cause the embyro being attacked. If BFP need to undergo IVIG injection. I got the referral letter from Polyclinic therefore I am considered a subsidised patient, otherwise you have to pay 40% more.. So don't afraid of the hassle waiting in Polyclinic, it is worth it.
I don't know which hospital in Singapore do the test of checking if the father's gene carried by the fetus immunologically foreign to the mother. Anyone know about this?
 
Jhw,
Yes, it been such a roller coaster for me. Been very confusing.
I was thinking of concieving asap to let my dad see my baby.
I know I couldn't force to have a bb but least I tried my best for my dad.
Right now I'm trying to stay as positive possible. Things might not be as bad I think.
My hubby wanted me to prepare for the worse but I simply dun have the courage.
 
Celest,

Yesterday when i read your posts , i somehow also got a feeling that u want to give a baby asap to your dad.. but i dun dare to mention.... but the more we want the more cannot have... so stay positive and relax... go out walk walk tomorrow as and when u have the chance... practise the secret... tell urself ur dad is going to be ok... pray at novena church, heard one wish will come true...

Now u have to stay strong for your dad.... and now medical science is advanced... tcm tongji hospital also got good doctors to help with complicated illness. My mil got cancer 3rd stage and was cured by tongji hospital
 
Celest,

SO sorry to hear that. HUGS!!!

This is really a tough time for you and stuck in between, dunno what to do is right. These 3 weeks is going to be tough one, tougher than the 2ww. But you got to pull through it. I am just suggesting perhaps give this round of iui a miss. Cos your emotion play an important role too. Try natural this month, anyway you are going for holiday too. Take some time away and recharge. You know, I actually strike naturally on the following month after iui. I understand that you want your dad to at least see your baby arrival. I have the same sentiment with you too, but its for my granny to enjoy 4 generations together.

Your hubby try to prepare you for the worst has his own reasons too. Else you will breakdown again if it really turn out bad. I will keep your dad in my prayers too. Hope things turn out fine.

Who knows it may just be a false alarm. Take care!!!
 
Jhw n princess,
Thanks for the concern... Right now I'm practise the Secret n praying hard.
There nothing I can help my dad, but only think positive n hoping it a false call.
Looking at him, I really regret for not marrying early tat causes now I still couldn't concieve a bb for my parents, doesn't wan to regret more.

Yesterday Dr did a IUI trial for me, he say he already know how my lining works.
I doesn't wan to stop this round cos who know, Dr might forgot abt my lining track.
So now I'm at the confuse stage.Tonight I will hand a talk with my hubby abt it.
 
Celestine,

Big big hug.. So sorry to hear about your dad.. But results are not out yet so don't think of the worst yet k.. Looks like your doc has gd confidence in your iui and i can see why you would wanna go ahead with it.. I guess it's ok if you feel you really can take it.. But if you are just too stressed out at the moment, you might wanna take a break instead of forcing yourself to shoulder so much at the same time.. Hugs.. Have a gd discussion with your hubby k.. Take care!
 


Hey Celest, sorry to hear about yr dad. I can only imagine how emotional and confusing you must be feeling now. The thing is, there is no right or wrong answer, whether to go for IUI or to postpone, perhaps you should take a bit of time off to clear yr head, good thing the weekend is coming, instead of stressing about the IUI and yr dad's situation, go for a stroll, or go for a movie, something that will take yr mind off things for a while.

If you feel you can't handle the stress of IUI, then let it go for this cycle, personally I think I would still like to go for it, but it's really hard for us to advise because none of us is in yr situation. Just don't blame yrself for anything, accept that some things are out of yr control, and maybe spend some time with family, or yr father, instead of pondering abt yr issues back and forth in yr head.

Take care girl *hugs*
 

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