ddtan,
sorry about your loss. went i went through the natural miscarriage, i feel the contractions for the whole night, so my guess is 6-8 hours. it was so painful and regular i didn't sleep the whole night. come to think of it, the contraction pain i had is similar to labor contractions. the body expels it in the same way as labor too. i was both physically and emotionally drained and drenched in blood just like you. except at 14 weeks pregnant, there's a more blood and more intense pain.
the thing about men, they never thought about being a father or father again until the baby is born and they see it in person. otherwise, only women will feel like we're having a child (or another) child. it's normal for them to feel that way so rather than scold them over something that nature intended too, it's best to lower our expectation so that we don't get angry unnecessarily. that's why i love boards like this, only another women who has had miscarriages can give you the true emotional support that you yearned.
i think your cycles are pretty regular. variations in the number of days per month is normal. irregular will be, one cycle every few months, and then in a some months, u have two. i have long cycles, which means my chances of getting pregnant each year is always lesser. so my fertile time is always week 3 or 4 after my menses ended. i think generally week 2-4 onwards, just BD regularly, at least every other day, depending on hubby's sperm count. my recommendation is only valid if hubby's sperm count is normal. if he has below normal sperm count, BD every 36-48 hours. try BD in the early morning where his counts are largest after a good night rest. take advantage of the "renewed" bodily process after a good night sleep.
sorry about your loss. went i went through the natural miscarriage, i feel the contractions for the whole night, so my guess is 6-8 hours. it was so painful and regular i didn't sleep the whole night. come to think of it, the contraction pain i had is similar to labor contractions. the body expels it in the same way as labor too. i was both physically and emotionally drained and drenched in blood just like you. except at 14 weeks pregnant, there's a more blood and more intense pain.
the thing about men, they never thought about being a father or father again until the baby is born and they see it in person. otherwise, only women will feel like we're having a child (or another) child. it's normal for them to feel that way so rather than scold them over something that nature intended too, it's best to lower our expectation so that we don't get angry unnecessarily. that's why i love boards like this, only another women who has had miscarriages can give you the true emotional support that you yearned.
i think your cycles are pretty regular. variations in the number of days per month is normal. irregular will be, one cycle every few months, and then in a some months, u have two. i have long cycles, which means my chances of getting pregnant each year is always lesser. so my fertile time is always week 3 or 4 after my menses ended. i think generally week 2-4 onwards, just BD regularly, at least every other day, depending on hubby's sperm count. my recommendation is only valid if hubby's sperm count is normal. if he has below normal sperm count, BD every 36-48 hours. try BD in the early morning where his counts are largest after a good night rest. take advantage of the "renewed" bodily process after a good night sleep.
Was also thinking like you, if it were to end, should have ended earlier, but if it was already here, why not stay til the end? 
