hi girls
sometimes it just comes back to me... Last week I had a terrifying dream, something like I have another "daughter" following me around - the one i lost recently in April 07. I thot i had let it go, but maybe subconsciously, I hadnt been as strong as I thot myself to be.
Today, my relatives visited, and one of them just very casually say tt it will be good that next child I have is a boy ( i have a 3yrs old girl). I smiled and said it is not up to me... but in my heart, I said I am not too sure if I will ever have another.
Very luckily for them, my frens ard never had a m/c before while I had 2. So I cannot blame them when all they can say is "never mind, at least you have 1 child already" or "can try again". But I felt as if I am very incompetance. In any case, when a 2nd m/c happens to me, no one in particular paid any attention. haha... maybe they think I shld be used to it.
HB, like most of those mentioned here, dislikes talking abt it cos he cannot handle emotional situations and too engrossed with work. In fact, he had never mentioned my second m/c at all and I think I still bear a grudge. I brought up the possibility of adoption, all he says is "crazy". But he is just trying to shut me up before it makes me cry i guess. Perhaps I needed a good cry... since d&c till now, I think I had tried very much to be strong and unaffected tt I forgotten to cry hard.
Maybe also well deserved cos the pregnancy wasnt planned and i hadnt been too over the moon with it. So god decided to help me by giving me a m/c.
Sigh... does it ever get out of our system? I have been pondering over thiss issue... a lot of mind wandering recently...supposed to be very pregnant now. I look at my maternity clothes sometimes, and I have added more since my first born...I only stopped when I had my m/c the second round...didnt think I will ever get another chance to wear them.
And everyday, i feel like a pre-programed robot void of thinking...cos no one likes to talk abt this. And even if i do bring it up, they try to hush me asap to "avoid making me miserable".
sorry folks, sound very depressing...in one of those moods...