hi mk, how shall i go about now? do i sit down n talk to my husb about the flat n his cpf?
once married, husband will be the nominee automatically. vice versa.
simply said, if you didn't change this nominee, upon any 'mischap' (touch wood), unless you re-marry, if not, even D-ed, he will remain as one of the beneficiary. so, pls make a trip to any CPF board to make this change, its FOC.
Before you approach him, find out your options as follow (note: regulations may have changed):
1)calculate on the worst case scenario. assuming he allow hse to b transferred to you, whether you are qualified a loan amt sufficient to repay the amt owed to his CPF+ interest. this figure can b found in his CPF portal provided he wants you to see it . you can also get a printed statement from HDB on the contribution amt from each party. Then u add-on the interest from there to derive a rough figure. you can prorate from your contribution to derive the interest.
2) if he isnt willing, find out whether you can afford a unit from the mkt. Get a AIP (approve-in-principle) from bank on the house loan amt you are qualified for, and concurrently find out from HDB whether you are qualify for HLE.
3) Before point 1, call HDB to find out, base on your case, whether they allow transfer of unit as yours is <1yr. if hdb allows, go to point 1 & 2.
4) if HDB say unit got to return back to them, then ask for the return price/penalty, whatsoever. recalculate what left in your CPF and weigh your options. repeat part-point 2; get a AIP from bank or HLE approval. Another avenue, is have a meetup session w the MP of your Constitution, ask them to appeal to HDB to allow transfer.
(above, please take in consideration the then purchase price and current price of your unit. you wouldn't want to take over a high priced unit while current price is lower)
if you conclude base on the worst scenerio (HDB take back flat and you still can afford an unit from the mkt) then go for it.
how to go for it:
a. Ask lawyer what your entitled rights. how much
more you can demand and how they can fight for you (these 'more' is bonus). but bear in mind, lawyer wins end of the day. hence do your sums.
by completing above points, you will b in a gd position to know his negotiation rights and your entitled rights.
b.Once done, talk to him. tel him your 'improved' demand. (if he play nasty, you will know you are still ok to forgo the bonus)
if you conclude selling/transfer now is not good and waiting out the MOP is more realistic, go for the wait then. at least, your finances will be better by then.
hence by then, repeat all the points all over again.
while waiting out, NO giving in to those absurd requests. stay focus. coz your kids well-being is first priority and they can sense you. also, focus on your job.
rule of thumb, don't make rash move unless you are certainly ready for the worst scenerio. reason being, your kids are depending on you.
*above is my best pov. please comment if otherwise. i have no intention to mis-lead.