Richard,
dont blame yourself for being stupid or silly. We are not docs or speciailists in fertility treatment. We all depend alot on good and professinal specialists to help us.
I also will not forget the 4 months when my hubby and I woke up at 3am on Sat mornings to queue outside the JE clinic until it opened at 6am. Those were very helpless and tiring days when we were already so tired after whole week of work. Somemore the medicine that the JE sinseh gave are all packed in china factory already. And the big pills given that needed to be chewed caused me having very frequent and loose tools everyday. I never notice if there is anything wrong, only after my EYS sinseh alerted me that there should not be TCM that will make patients to have such response everyday. And how can the JE clinic gave the same packed medicine to all patients when everyone's conditions is different. I was told that the JE sinseh was a western doc in the past, but she studied TCM later to take over her dad chinese clinic. This is why she can speak English quite well and knows alot of fertility medical terms.
My friend's gynae is a gynae from Thomson Medical Centre, and she told my friend that this JE sinseh used to borrow a lots of notes from her to study on fertility treatments. However, later on she stopped borrowing from her and may have found other western docs. Dr Chris Chen might be the one.
Anyway, my sis-in-law who recently wants to seek fertility treatments also got recommendation from her sister to go to Dr Chris Chen. But when my SIL mentioned Dr Chen to her family doc, surprisingly her family doc shook his head and kind of giving hints to discourage her and told her that Dr Chen was his medical classmate in the past.
I would recommend you to go to govt hospitals to seek a good fertility doc as I feel that govt docs are more to serve the public than making money from patients. I must say that there are lots of professional docs in private hospitals, however they still belong commerical and even listed companies, making money is a must in managing their hospitals in order to pay their staffs and docs. So it is inevitable for them to charge higher for the same treatments provided by govt hospitals.
As for TCM, tongji hospital is good and cheap, however the waiting and queueing is very long as it is a charity organisation. So you must consider if you can afford to spend the time. As for EYS, the waiting time is shorter, however it is much more expensive. I choosed EYS paragon reproductive centre after my experience with JE, and found that the sinseh is quite good. My recurrent infection problem was stopped after taking the EYS TCM. However, like what the ladies said, it takes longer for TCM to take effect. Must keep perservering and stay positive while waiting for the good results.