Hi Acthia,
I must say yr maid is asking too much. Based on the fact that she has no manners, dont feed the kids and bochap, she BETTER go. Her friends must have been brain-washing her - since employer staying in condo now, can afford to pay her more. Change the maid b4 yr #3 arrives, or else you are at her mercy. Oh yes, when you change to a new maid, dont spoil her. Salmon, caviar and wine is not for her to drink even if cannot finish.
My present maid is a Filipino. If no off day, $320. I am still thinking whether to give her a off day, bcos very scared she get brain-washed by other maids. Actually she is a transferred maid...worked for another family for 8 months.