Hi moorspa,I understand it's for my own good.. But man had ego. If I ask my hub to see a counsellor ,he sure blow off his top. I've tried hinting to him but he choose to just ignore me. What can I do? He always says that our marriage is just fine.. If I continue abit more,he'd said I start to grumble again and walk off. I just have to shut my mouth.
I'm brought up fr a healthy family. Just that my dad is a horny fellow. I'm sorry but it's true. My mom has caught him 3x n me additional 2x ((my mom dun know))but my mom still loves him dearly. Till today. Other than that,my dad loves all of us very much n my mom too. I've spoken to my dad abt this issue before but he said its just for fun. Like "screw n go" thingy.
Back to me,which wife dun long for hub attention? All wives does. And me too. I dun see anything wrong abt it. Last time,like 2 to 3yrs back,in my hub's life,there is only me.
-every fri,supper n midnight w/o fail since 13yrs back
-sat,lunch together then shopping. Then supper with my parents for d past 13yrs too
-sun,sleep late then shopping,lunch then coffee then dinner or at times I cook for him since 13yrs ago
- mon to fri,work or home. At times,work late and he'd definitely inform me. At times,buy supper for me. All d while
-bb go check up,he'd definitely go.
-I go check up,even if he can't make it,we'll meet there then lunch then I go back myself n he head back to work.
-we meet once in awhile on weekdays for dinner.
## Even aft the arrival of my boy,we still do all these every week without fail since we dated 13yrs ago till now.. Without fail. We still go wedding dinner,clubbing,concerts,nice place for dinner bla bla bla.. Just d 2 of us. That's what I call husband n wife. I never let my boy interfere between us. ##
Only recently,yr 2011,oct,things start to fall really apart.. He start to work late almost every night. Our weekend outing start to get lesser n lesser.. Till now,zero. All cos someone brought him to a stupid nightclub to sing! To find PRC! To bed them maybe.. Sorry for my language.. Seriously,when I think of it,I get really agitated!! Very agitated!! Cos in late oct,I'm gg through another ivf. When I wake him up to inject me,he grumbles! 3 to 4 injection to be precise. I even need to prepare the medication myself. At times,it's very painful and he'd just dun bother. Inject then go back sleep. That how cold he has become. Through all my previous ivf,I felt appreciated cos he really takes care of me. Prepare the medication for all my injections. Accompany me for all my check up. Now? I go myself. He dun even bother to ask how was my check up. I insisted he go with me once and he started scolding me cos we waited so long. All these treatment ,I still bear it. I smile and said I'm sorry.
Seriously,I doubt ANY WIVES can tolerate hub in this manner while gg through ivf. Non. But? I bear it. Aft my embryo transfer,I still need to go back myself n FYI,I went there myself too cos he bz. Till one day,my gf called to inform me that he is actually out w her husband to clubs. Seriously,my world shattered! My heart too! I've got no one to talk to. No one to turn to! Do u know how stressful n hurting it was? If its not for the sake of my boy,I'd have divorce him!! I wanted to end my life but I still have 2 aged parents and I dun want to break their heart. Whenever they ask abt my hub,I must cook up lies to tell them he is actually bz w work!
Every night,I cant sleep. Even aft the confrontation,he ignores me! As if it was my fault. He doesn't want to talk to me. He doesn't wanna touch me n I must always make the first move.
I need to wake up at 4.30am to go work and when he comes back at 2 or 3am and in need to have a quickie,he'd just wake me up for a fast one. And I need to do all d job in bed. And if I'm like still groggie cos just woke up,he'd scold me and said I'm lazy.
PS, any wife out there,who can tolerate all these in silence? I did.