I have been married with my Hb for 10 years and we have two kids 9 years old and 5 years old. During this period of marriage, we have a lot of arguments, quarrels, saying nasty words to each other. This usually due to my Hb is pretty lazy person. Yea he did contribute like 60 percent of the household expenses but I feel that he fall short when it comes to spending time with family. He would rather sleep than playing with the kids. I am a working mum too but despite how busy I am I will still spend time with them.
This year Feb, we have a big quarrel and we end up hitting each other. I delete him from my Facebook and our external family chat groups. Then I avoid attending all his family gatherings. We basically didn't talk at all after that, no connections and we already sleep separately ever since my little girl was born. My Hb and I have different lifestyle. Due to his job constraint, he need to work at night becos he need to look at the US market but I am an early bird as I have to work in the day. So in order not to disturb each other, we already planned to sleep separately when we move in to our new home 3 years ago.
Lately I have been feeling something fishy about my Hb. Even though I don't really care about him but his actions make me feel that something is not right. So once I dig into his phone and realised that he actually went for happy ending massage. He even introduced his friend.. I was totally devastated..I feel so betrayed. I give him so much trust. He went out every night for supper so I thought he will just go for the food but I can't imagine that he is outside doing things like this.
I confronted him, give him a tight slap on his face. He didn't retaliate cos he know he is in the wrong. That night we have a talk. He told me that he only went for 3 times and all 3 times are just hand jobs and there is no feelings attached. All just becos he wanted to de-stress. He say that becos I deleted him from Facebook. Becos I have been keep scolding him calling him useless etc that why he feel so stress up that he have to find a quick relief outside. He beg me to forgive him and he told me he will change for the better. He will spend more time with the family.
I don't know how to continue to be honest. I don't know if I should divorce him or not. I am pretty sure that I have a high chance of getting the custody of the kids when we divorce. After doing self reflection, I also admit that at times I am pretty harsh on my words. But I feel so betrayed, I feel he is so dirty. I mean why can't we discuss this properly before he do such thing. I asked him if I am the one who do such things behind your back, will you forgive me? He keep quiet.
I have been having a tough week this week. I can't sleep, I cried almost everyday. I just can't believe he will do such thing. Betraying me like this. He is such a stingy person yet he willing to spend $120 on each session. He told me that he see the way I am so upset he actually felt happy becos he know that I actually care about him. On the other hand, If I forgive him, I will be constantly paranoid that he will betrayed me again..I will be constantly wanting to check his phone, constantly wanting to know his whereabouts.
I not sure how to move on.
This year Feb, we have a big quarrel and we end up hitting each other. I delete him from my Facebook and our external family chat groups. Then I avoid attending all his family gatherings. We basically didn't talk at all after that, no connections and we already sleep separately ever since my little girl was born. My Hb and I have different lifestyle. Due to his job constraint, he need to work at night becos he need to look at the US market but I am an early bird as I have to work in the day. So in order not to disturb each other, we already planned to sleep separately when we move in to our new home 3 years ago.
Lately I have been feeling something fishy about my Hb. Even though I don't really care about him but his actions make me feel that something is not right. So once I dig into his phone and realised that he actually went for happy ending massage. He even introduced his friend.. I was totally devastated..I feel so betrayed. I give him so much trust. He went out every night for supper so I thought he will just go for the food but I can't imagine that he is outside doing things like this.
I confronted him, give him a tight slap on his face. He didn't retaliate cos he know he is in the wrong. That night we have a talk. He told me that he only went for 3 times and all 3 times are just hand jobs and there is no feelings attached. All just becos he wanted to de-stress. He say that becos I deleted him from Facebook. Becos I have been keep scolding him calling him useless etc that why he feel so stress up that he have to find a quick relief outside. He beg me to forgive him and he told me he will change for the better. He will spend more time with the family.
I don't know how to continue to be honest. I don't know if I should divorce him or not. I am pretty sure that I have a high chance of getting the custody of the kids when we divorce. After doing self reflection, I also admit that at times I am pretty harsh on my words. But I feel so betrayed, I feel he is so dirty. I mean why can't we discuss this properly before he do such thing. I asked him if I am the one who do such things behind your back, will you forgive me? He keep quiet.
I have been having a tough week this week. I can't sleep, I cried almost everyday. I just can't believe he will do such thing. Betraying me like this. He is such a stingy person yet he willing to spend $120 on each session. He told me that he see the way I am so upset he actually felt happy becos he know that I actually care about him. On the other hand, If I forgive him, I will be constantly paranoid that he will betrayed me again..I will be constantly wanting to check his phone, constantly wanting to know his whereabouts.
I not sure how to move on.