Hi Shiseru,
i juz wanna give u a hug.i know exactly how u feel.been there done that.that heart wrenching moment.sometimes,even when ppl don't tell u XXX has given birth,u roughly know & somehow,u find out.sometimes,it's a jealous feeling too.& i always think how these ppl don't deserve the babies coz they are not ready to be parents.juz looking at their parenting skills make my eyes roll at times.i will never even do that to my kids.my cousin's wife (both 25) juz had a bb.it was planned.they tried a couple of mths for it & he told me his plan b4 marriage.now,i hear his mum said when the bb cries at night,his voice will be louder than the bb's.he's scolding the bb.he told the bb if she cries anymore,she won't have a sibling.i think he's not financially ready to be a parent/mentally ready.bb all cry!do u expect a 1 mth old bb to tell u she's hungry? being a parent is a huge responsibility.i don't even think i'll grumble abt waking up every 2 hrs to feed my bb.a friend is complaining her girl is now turning 'terrible two'.well,this is the age kids are learning,experimenting.do u blame the child for being a bit mishievous? do u expect kids to behave like adults? my heart aches when i hear parents saying such things.hang in there,my friend,time will heal.trust me.i'm approaching my 2nd annivesary oredi.it's getting easier.