hello mtbs!!
kwxy,
sorry to hear what u had to go thru. i think its best to stick to a gynae that's more positive & reassuring than 1 that's prone to negativity. perhaps he just wanted u to be prepared for the worst but to suggest that u do a d&c first is beyond comprehension. maybe u want to stick on to dr. lawrence or switch to woody lah (u staying in sk like me right). woody is the chop chop type but he dun anyhow say things that caused unnecessary worries & panic for mtbs unless he's very, very certain. that's why i opted to go back to him still.
for me, during my #1, i think i told my family & posted the gd news on FB by 8wks. din know abt the 3mths rule of thumb then. after reading so many unfortunate news fr mtbs in my previous threads & others, i realised the 1st trimester is really very vulnerable. i know of mtbs whose babies had heartbeats at 6-8wks but later the bb stop growing fr 9-12wks.
my cousin's wife miscarriage in her 7mths. i dun know the actual reason as they kept it hush-hush. also know of this mummy who gave birth to twins & one was stillborn. these are all very sad but sometimes, it happened.
for #2, so far, only my hb & parents know abt it. havent told my fil/bil/sil although we are staying under the same roof. and my parents only knew becos i was admitted to kkh for 2nights & they were very worried abt me so my hb went to tell them the truth. to my fil/bil/sil, only told them i was warded due to stomach pains.
