babycoco,
for day naps, I don't focus on duration first, I only focus on the number, i.e. 3 day naps a day. So when it's time, or abt time, I'll carry him and lay him in his cot, switch on music and see if he needs a pat or not.
Hmm, it didn't start off so easy de. Few weeks back when I started to train him, struggled a few days and I lost my cool.. so I got my mother in law to do it when I got frustrated.. now I roughly know if my son wants a pat, or change sleeping position, or wants to cuddle a while..
What is important is to repeat the same procedure over and over.
I have bad days too. When I have it, I will 'restart' my son's schedule the next day. With repetition, the bb will get it. Babies thrive on knowing what is coming next.
Oh, I also 'trained' my mother in law to do the same.
Lastly, I don't really carry my bb much, most of the time I let him play on his own. Like in his cot (musical mobile, cloth books), bouncer, or even on the bumper mat in the living room. He will self-entertained by looking at the spinning ceiling fan or at the toys I place ard him.
Geri,
I go by the belief that bb must zzz within 2 hours after a feed... so I started to do that when bb was 3 weeks old. Now he is 7 wks old. I will just feed him, then place him down in rocker or bumper mat for him to play on his own. After a while when he gets tired, he will give out a fatigue cry (short and helpless). Will take the cue and settle him for naps.
Like what I've shared earlier, not easy but I repeat the same boring procedure daily... so my boy gets it now. He knows when I switch on music in bedroom means Zzzz time.
Last night I gave my boy dreamfeed at 1045pm. He zzz till 5 am and woke up to make some noise, I didn't go to him immediately. Just lay in the dark to observe what he was doing. Then realised he managed to get his hands out from the swaddle and was happily playing away. After 10mins or so, seeing no one went to him, he fell asleep on his own till abt 615am, when my hubby was leaving for work, he got up to cry. I could tell it was hunger cry so I fed him. After feeding again I put him down in cot and he fell asleep after a while on his own.. Both of us zzz till 915am.
So today schedule a bit off, I will adjust according but by evening, should be back to planned schedule, 7.15 to 8pm - preparation for bed and EBM.
Hope my sharing can help you ladies.