just share with you gals how i handled C 2 nights back.. u gals might not agree but i'll just share anyway..
everyday we have to give 2 dosage of Dhatifen to boost his lungs. (he just went on the neubiliser couple of weeks back)
so my hubby is the one who will usually force the syrup down his throat and he struggles a lot.. so everytime after the syrup is forced, the poor boy is like gasping for breath.. usually, i'll entice him with something, like reading or watching a video clip, i seat him down and then let him drink voluntarily.. usually it depends on his mood whether he will want to drink voluntarily, but once he doesn't, my hubby force.. for me, i just keep trying other means to get him to do it voluntarily..
but that night, this was what happened:
I: C, take yr vitamins, then milk, then sleep..
C: noooo..
Ignored me and then carry on with his other activities
I repeated my instructions 2-3 times.. until C really wanted his milk but i refused to give him until he kept crying mum mum..
C: mum mummmm
I: Vitamins first, then mum mum.
C: Nooo.. mum mumm...
I just ignored and then he carried on with his activities.. He climbed onto our bed, and tried to snuggle with me..
I: No C, vitamins first, then milk and then big bed..
he obviously ignored me and try to stay on the big bed..
i carried him up back to his bed, and repeated, vitamins first, then milk, then big bed..
C started to cry and whine for 5s.. i continue to ignore, and then crying will stop, then he came up on the big bed again.. SO i brought him back and this went on for a good 1/2 hour!
But everytime he cried, he cried longer than before.. but seeing no reaction, he stopped and climbed up again on our bed.. i was like really tired already.. but it was like 'no face' if i force it down right.. cos my hubby was like 'see la, u force 5 seconds settle, then now leh.. blah blah blah..'
it came to a point where he was really hungry and tired and i was afraid he will fall asleep.. FINALLY
I: C, if you want to be on the big bed, you have to take yr vitamins, then milk, then sleep..
C struggled but not much strength left already.. i gave him the dose, not exactly voluntarily, a bit of struggle still.. then gave him a hug and few kisses and he fell asleep within 30s.. without his milk..
my heart was breaking.. but stil i couldn't give in cos i know that it will be the start of breeding bad behavior.. so if bad behavior starts early, stop it early, then will have less of it in future.. anyway, after he fell asleep, my hubby gave me 2 thumbs up and said he salute me.. but added by saying, 'u still forced it down anyway' HAHAHa...
btw, 3 important things to remember, first, kids always wait for our reaction even though they're whining/crying/rolling badly.. if we don't give them the desired reaction, they will stop their tantrum.. second, always ensure that when kids are having their tantrum, their lives are not endangered in any possible way.. Lastly, always remember that at the end of the day, always focus on the behavior and not the kid.. and always let them know that they are loved no matter what.. eg. saying 'i don't like that behavior' instead of 'i don't like you'