since we brought up e topic abt #3 again, i'll share wif everyone my recent tots...
i am dead serious abt stopping at #2. i even tot of going for ligation (i know some of u will go, "kelly, dun b silly. u'll regret it", etc). i spoke 2 my gynae, asking more details, how it is done, how much, etc.
my gynae advised me 2 do it in 1 surgery...c section followed by ligation. i just need 2 pay xtra $400-500 cash more. i even tot of delivering at TMC cos MAH dun allow ligation procedures. 2 b very sure abt ligation, my gynae suggested i have a PD standby 2 check my #2 once he pops 2 make sure he's a normal bb cos once i ligate, i wont b able 2 conceive anymore. i argued tat even wif a PD checking on my bb right away, it's hard 2 tell if my bb has problems rt? my gynae agreed but e PD can at least check if my bb has down symdrome. as for internal defects, no choice...can only fixed wif medical treatments.
if i choose 2 deliver at MAH, 2 do ligation is best 2 do it 2mths after i deliver. the surgery will then costs me abt cash $1K, depending which hospital i go. if it's KK, of course a bit cheaper depending on the ward.
i discussed tis wif husband briefly n he said up 2 me. i tik he didnt wanna discuss tis further so cut me off. i'll bring up tis topic wif him again 2 b fair 2 him. husband never really say no 2 us stopping at 2kids but of course he did say tat if he can afford it, he likes 2 have 3kids.
my rationale is...
s'pore standard of living is rather high = getting more & more expensive. 2 hv 3kids based on a single income isnt easy unless i dun indulge my kids on ANY materialistic stuff (new clothes, toys, enrichment classes, trips, etc). it may b possible if my #2 & #3 get hands-me-downs, play wif toys when they visit friens/relatives, borrow library books, dun go for ANY enrichment classes-just attend nursery, kindergarten, primary school, etc; can only travel 2 malaysia (not tat it's not gd enuff but cant afford 2 go any further), etc.
even if one day husband's able 2 afford it, we also need 2 save for our retirements (husband did financial planning n we need abt $1m each, assuming we retire at 55, based on our current lifestyles & live til 85yrs old). wat happens if come 1 day, my sons tell me "mummy, i dun feel like working after i graduate. can i go around e world 1st, train 2 an ironman, take up art/photography classes, go around e world on a sailboat, do drama, etc?" i cant say, "no, son. u need 2 work 2 support mummy & daddy & urself"
my cousin is already doing tis while preparing 2 enter uni. he's training 2 b an ironman (triathalon type of competitions), spent tons of $$ on equipment (bike, shoes, gear, etc), competition fees, travel expenses. who's paying for all these? my auntie...
i'm also not saying tat watever my sons want, i'll indulge them in it BUT if the certain activity helps 2 build them in character building, y not? as long my sons dun bump around at home, dun do anything, laze around, expecting me 2 feed them, of course i wont condone such behavior. i often asked husband tis n he agreed tat it's hard 2 say no 2 our boys if they intend 2 do stuff for their interests.
wat abt their education? my bro spends 6yrs studying 2 b an architect n has spent abt S$200K of my dad's $$. wat happens if my boys comes 2 me & say he 1 2 study aeronautical engineering (e best plc 2 study is in UK/USA), then how? i cant possibly tell my boys, "darlings, can u just study biz ad or arts&social science cos mummy/daddy cant afford?"
e best i can do is 2 ensure my boys get e right proper upbringing & education. after tat, it's time for me & husband 2 enjoy life. i cant imagine husband and/or myself having 2 work in macdonalds/kfc or old chang kee til 70yrs old.
{OOPS! very lor-soh}
