hopeful_mum
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I think also depends. If u see g clinic early in the month then just nice can slot in for end of the mth to see dr Sheila. If u go mid month then got to wait for next mth end so longer.
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hopeful_mum
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hugs babe. It will go well, don't think about it too much. sorry that you have to go through this again. rem to do a mini confinement after the procedure tomorrow. so u will be doing it in nuh?
my prayers are with you and ur angel.
haze02
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Nope... Will be doing at Mt A by my private gynea. Altot cost a bomb but spend this money is worth.
I can't trust nuh, as I'm on susidize.. Meaning I wouldn't have any idea who will handle my D&C.. Tat scare me enough... I asked the nurses, they said is either a Medical officer or any Doc.. Unless I change to private rate.. Which mean I forever can't switch to susidize if I need more tests... Dun wan my womb be handle by those trainee and might be treated as guniea pig without knowledge...
Will be boiling red date ginger water... When come back home tml... I can start drinking..
Gosh... Have to reach hospital by 6am...
I can't trust nuh, as I'm on susidize.. Meaning I wouldn't have any idea who will handle my D&C.. Tat scare me enough... I asked the nurses, they said is either a Medical officer or any Doc.. Unless I change to private rate.. Which mean I forever can't switch to susidize if I need more tests... Dun wan my womb be handle by those trainee and might be treated as guniea pig without knowledge...
Will be boiling red date ginger water... When come back home tml... I can start drinking..
Gosh... Have to reach hospital by 6am...
hopeful_mum
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so early! true, I also don't want a trainee to handle my womb. so scary. I think money is well spent. ya I think for now keep subsidize with NUH. I also think its a good choice, only when pregnancy stable then can switch to pte.Nope... Will be doing at Mt A by my private gynea. Altot cost a bomb but spend this money is worth.
I can't trust nuh, as I'm on susidize.. Meaning I wouldn't have any idea who will handle my D&C.. Tat scare me enough... I asked the nurses, they said is either a Medical officer or any Doc.. Unless I change to private rate.. Which mean I forever can't switch to susidize if I need more tests... Dun wan my womb be handle by those trainee and might be treated as guniea pig without knowledge...
Will be boiling red date ginger water... When come back home tml... I can start drinking..
Gosh... Have to reach hospital by 6am...
hopeful_mum
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hugs!!!!!!!!!!! I know, I saw my neighbor opp also, that time preggie I also say my turn soon, then end up mc. now just can smile and play with the baby.
ur turn will come one, god knows we are all trying very hard. when ur turn comes u will be a fantastic parent and ur children will love u lots.
Ur angel is sad too, but maybe they need to leave earlier to get peace than to drag later and might have to suffer. So it could be better for them, that's what I always tell myself. coz something is bad that's why they cannot continue. im sure when ur angel is free, the siblings will all gather and take care of each other
so we don't have to worry, they will worry for us if they see us so dejected and sad. I believe they are cheering for us to give them an earthling sibling soon
so importantly u must take care of ur health after the procedure. then can continue to pursue our dreams.
haze02
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Thanks babe! I wish all my bests to u too... Really hope to receive ur baby dust. Jiayou!
Coming here to this forum is a relieve... Nobody able to understand our pain and sorrow more then us... Only coming here then I able receive comfort... Or I might have cried day and night none stop... Thanks my dear ladies...
Been alway telling myself the same too... Baby Tan (btw my surname is Tan. Hehe) will be safe in heaven with my another 2 babies.. My priest told me, do I know I will die one day? I laugh out and say yes... My priest say, we didn't lost them. They are right in heaven in peace and doesn't need to suffer those human sorrow and pain, ten times happier then him and me. When I pass away, I will meet them too.. So what is the loss? Altot we didn't manage to carry them on arms but we are still consider Mother... They are our personal angels, a voice in heaven to pray for us tat closest to God...
Now I will focus more Tiao my womb back to great shape so my next baby will have a more comfort bed.. Jiayou!!
Coming here to this forum is a relieve... Nobody able to understand our pain and sorrow more then us... Only coming here then I able receive comfort... Or I might have cried day and night none stop... Thanks my dear ladies...
Been alway telling myself the same too... Baby Tan (btw my surname is Tan. Hehe) will be safe in heaven with my another 2 babies.. My priest told me, do I know I will die one day? I laugh out and say yes... My priest say, we didn't lost them. They are right in heaven in peace and doesn't need to suffer those human sorrow and pain, ten times happier then him and me. When I pass away, I will meet them too.. So what is the loss? Altot we didn't manage to carry them on arms but we are still consider Mother... They are our personal angels, a voice in heaven to pray for us tat closest to God...
Now I will focus more Tiao my womb back to great shape so my next baby will have a more comfort bed.. Jiayou!!
hopeful_mum
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ya they will be taking care of each other till we see them.
glacierchocolate
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HUGS!! It will sure go well... Jia you! Remember to do a mini confinement, at least for a week.
glacierchocolate
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Ya, my first appt is at Clinic G oso...
Give a hope
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So good...for new case they says no choice need to wait I wait till I go c both of them at their clinic instead...
Now need to stick w them there at their clinic liao...
Which I also found better cos the appt to c them is short...
Give a hope
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You be fine n think of ur hub u will be able to going thru
I know how it feel but mbe ask for more blanket and they can give u warm air in ur blanket if u claim too cold...
haze02
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You be fine n think of ur hub u will be able to going thru
I know how it feel but mbe ask for more blanket and they can give u warm air in ur blanket if u claim too cold...
Thanks mummy... Will try to do a confinement. Nobody to help me out, so the most I will boil ginger with brown sugar to drink n wear socks.... Look forward to my hubby cooking, he saying will cook sesame oil chicken for me.. Yum yum!
Oh I can request for the heat blowing machine? Will request for more blanket... Hate the coldness esp fully naked inside.. Lol
Give a hope
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At mt A only can have me more blankets while Kkh mbe pte patient ba they put one so called like pipe inside is supply warm air into blanket...by the time I wake up it is done liao just that the waiting time to go into op room is torturing as need to wait the pill take place b4 can go for D&C...
Err I think u should order confinement food also...
Give a hope
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Ya both time both of us cried but dh says he has to be strong he must control not to cry cos he need to take care me...
Dh will ask me look at wedding ring n says rem we are here for each other don worry I am not along...
glacierchocolate
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Wah... How come will be fully naked? When I did my D&C I was wearing my own clothes, no need to change... Only removed my bottoms ley..
glacierchocolate
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U mean the pill inserted into the vagina?? I inserted it at home, 3 hours before my appointment ley... Hmm
glacierchocolate
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Btw, do u gals have water retention problems, especially on your feet? After going bk to work with all the walking and standing, my feet are swollen again... :S
haze02
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Wa sia! KKH so nice wor... Got warm pipe! I remember only those thick thick blanket... For the pills, my gynea wan me to insert before going hospital, so 2 hr apart lor... The moment they push n check my identity, I was push straight in the surgery room... No waiting...Can't endure the cold cold room... Why alway the room must be so chilling...
I search a few confinement meal... Realize just for 7 day cost a lot wor! Heartpain sia..
Will stop myself from taking any liang food and drink more ginger water... Tat shd be enough bah..
haze02
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Nah... They request me to remove everything n wear the wrap cloth... Maybe they playing safe... (Touch wood!) Anything happen, they wouldn't need tear my clothing off... Lol!
haze02
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Both of ur hubby so strong... Mine hor, I need to console him.. He didn't cried much but he super depress... I need to keep throwing positive thought to him... While receiving the news he was blur all the way, I need to do everything in nuh... Make decision and paper works... Then find a quiet place in nuh n cry... Haiz!
glacierchocolate
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Lmao!!
hopeful_mum
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Hi babe go home and rest well. Don't come online.
hopeful_mum
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lol I see. take a nap bah but I know can be quite boring right. lolHehe! I'm still in the recovery ward... Waiting for discharge.
Give a hope
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Mine inserted when at hospital leh...aiyo
Give a hope
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Both time I wore hospital op dress which I don like it at all but no choice cos according to the staff there our own clothes might have bacteria so not allowed to wear during op time
Give a hope
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Yup but ur health more important so just close one eye n order...haha
anie_angel
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Hi ladies.
I have been reading this thread for past couple of weeks. Finally decided to write a message.
I am also Prof PC Wong's ivf patient. I did one fresh cycle with him in Nov 2013 and it was negative. We did another cycle in Jan this year and were so delighted to find out I was pregnant. This was my first pregnancy in 8 years of marriage. Unfortunately close to week 6, I started bleeding heavily and went to NUH A&E and the on call gynae did a scan and told me I miscarried and he can't see the sac anymore. It was a huge blow and I couldn't stop crying. One week later we went for review with Prof Wong and he sent me to the fetal care centre to check everything is ok and we found out that I was still pregnant and there was a heartbeat! Hubby and I were so stunned! I had also stopped all my support medications as advised by the A&E gynae and TCM herbs so we were really afraid but hopeful at the same time. Prof put me back on all the injections and support meds. The reason I was bleeding so heavily was becos I had a haematoma (blood cot) in the uterus. So we were told to come back in 1 week to scan again and hopefully the blood clot is smaller. Week 8 we went for the scan and this time there was no heartbeat It was such a blow to us. We did blood tests to confirm dropping hcg levels and did another scan to be absolutely sure. After that I opted for a D&C as I didn't think I was emotionally strong enough to go through the miscarriage myself and didn't like the idea of flushing "my baby" down the toilet bowl I did the D&C last week Wed and have been having bad cramps and spotting since then. Going in for an early review later since the cramps are quite bad.
It has been a crazy emotional roller-coaster the last 4 weeks and I am in still so much physical and emotional pain. I can't seem to stop asking why? It was so difficult to even conceive and we had to go thru ivf and even then couldn't hold on to the pregnancy
I have been reading this thread for past couple of weeks. Finally decided to write a message.
I am also Prof PC Wong's ivf patient. I did one fresh cycle with him in Nov 2013 and it was negative. We did another cycle in Jan this year and were so delighted to find out I was pregnant. This was my first pregnancy in 8 years of marriage. Unfortunately close to week 6, I started bleeding heavily and went to NUH A&E and the on call gynae did a scan and told me I miscarried and he can't see the sac anymore. It was a huge blow and I couldn't stop crying. One week later we went for review with Prof Wong and he sent me to the fetal care centre to check everything is ok and we found out that I was still pregnant and there was a heartbeat! Hubby and I were so stunned! I had also stopped all my support medications as advised by the A&E gynae and TCM herbs so we were really afraid but hopeful at the same time. Prof put me back on all the injections and support meds. The reason I was bleeding so heavily was becos I had a haematoma (blood cot) in the uterus. So we were told to come back in 1 week to scan again and hopefully the blood clot is smaller. Week 8 we went for the scan and this time there was no heartbeat
It was such a blow to us. We did blood tests to confirm dropping hcg levels and did another scan to be absolutely sure. After that I opted for a D&C as I didn't think I was emotionally strong enough to go through the miscarriage myself and didn't like the idea of flushing "my baby" down the toilet bowl I did the D&C last week Wed and have been having bad cramps and spotting since then. Going in for an early review later since the cramps are quite bad. It has been a crazy emotional roller-coaster the last 4 weeks and I am in still so much physical and emotional pain. I can't seem to stop asking why? It was so difficult to even conceive and we had to go thru ivf and even then couldn't hold on to the pregnancy
dolly_gal
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Anie, I feel u cos I went thru similar case as u last year... married for 10+ years n did few cycles of ivf, finally bfp but only for 8 weeks. We even scan twice n saw hb n one day it just stopped.. so we tell ourselves it's fate, angel wasn't strong enough to go on n we dun want angel suffer as well. 2Ndly we told ourselves angel dun want daddy n mummy suffer at later stage as well cos it will b even more unbearable..
Meanwhile nurse ur health back n get ur body ready for next cycle.. we need to keep our faith gg on n one day bb will b in our hands.
To my gynae he was sad but on the other hand he said at least I can get pregnant so dun give up he said..
Meanwhile nurse ur health back n get ur body ready for next cycle.. we need to keep our faith gg on n one day bb will b in our hands.
To my gynae he was sad but on the other hand he said at least I can get pregnant so dun give up he said..
corrinatay
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Hi all
I just went thru d&c on 8 March 2014. Gynae say is a silent miscarriage which could be due to poor egg quality or sperm cell.
Still on the road to recovery and holding good faith that little angle will come find us again.. try to take more tonic to build up health. .
Have did some research and some say women will become more fertile after a miscarriage. . Hope that is true and I don't need to wait long for my 2nd angle.. have been ttc for 1yr plus but still end up in m/c..
I just went thru d&c on 8 March 2014. Gynae say is a silent miscarriage which could be due to poor egg quality or sperm cell.
Still on the road to recovery and holding good faith that little angle will come find us again.. try to take more tonic to build up health. .
Have did some research and some say women will become more fertile after a miscarriage. . Hope that is true and I don't need to wait long for my 2nd angle.. have been ttc for 1yr plus but still end up in m/c..
haze02
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Anie,
I totally can feel how disappointed and depress... My first baby, I also try more then 2 year to conceive but end up lost it HB at 11 weeks... Just one week I will be on 2nd trimester, so I have high hope but the scan fail me... I took more then 6 mth to recover n puck up the courage TTC again. 2nd and 3rd MC recently was a big blow too... But girl look brighter side... Ur baby has not leave u, they now in heaven praying for u... Tat what I alway console myself... Things happen for a reason.. I duno why, but I know our God wouldn't be evil by taking away from us for no reason...
Take ur time to Tiao ur body back... Have a good mini confinement... We need to prepare a comfortable bed, so our baby wouldn't leave us again... Tat what I strongly believe... Cry as much u needed.. Come here n talk to us... Altot we can't help but we will be there for u... Jiayou!
I totally can feel how disappointed and depress... My first baby, I also try more then 2 year to conceive but end up lost it HB at 11 weeks... Just one week I will be on 2nd trimester, so I have high hope but the scan fail me... I took more then 6 mth to recover n puck up the courage TTC again. 2nd and 3rd MC recently was a big blow too... But girl look brighter side... Ur baby has not leave u, they now in heaven praying for u... Tat what I alway console myself... Things happen for a reason.. I duno why, but I know our God wouldn't be evil by taking away from us for no reason...
Take ur time to Tiao ur body back... Have a good mini confinement... We need to prepare a comfortable bed, so our baby wouldn't leave us again... Tat what I strongly believe... Cry as much u needed.. Come here n talk to us... Altot we can't help but we will be there for u... Jiayou!
haze02
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I'm a stubborn bitch... Haha! My D&C & oncoming tests already cost us a bomb... Couldn't close one eyes liao.
Anyway my hubby will be cooking simple confinement meal for me and prepare homemade chicken essence... Everyday in drinking ginger tea with brown sugar... Tat shd be enough bah.. Hehe!
haze02
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Yes dear... Most imp now is to Tiao our health back... My previous gynea was saying aft D&C, those scrapping etc will make our womb super clean.. Tat will help implantation easier... He mention before a few of his patient been conceive less then 6 mth aft D&C... But hor, I still felt it imp, first to Tiao my body back.. MC is very harmful to our womb too... Give it some time to recover.
glacierchocolate
Member
Haze, take care and rest well! Hugs!
glacierchocolate
Member
Hi ladies.
I have been reading this thread for past couple of weeks. Finally decided to write a message.
I am also Prof PC Wong's ivf patient. I did one fresh cycle with him in Nov 2013 and it was negative. We did another cycle in Jan this year and were so delighted to find out I was pregnant. This was my first pregnancy in 8 years of marriage. Unfortunately close to week 6, I started bleeding heavily and went to NUH A&E and the on call gynae did a scan and told me I miscarried and he can't see the sac anymore. It was a huge blow and I couldn't stop crying. One week later we went for review with Prof Wong and he sent me to the fetal care centre to check everything is ok and we found out that I was still pregnant and there was a heartbeat! Hubby and I were so stunned! I had also stopped all my support medications as advised by the A&E gynae and TCM herbs so we were really afraid but hopeful at the same time. Prof put me back on all the injections and support meds. The reason I was bleeding so heavily was becos I had a haematoma (blood cot) in the uterus. So we were told to come back in 1 week to scan again and hopefully the blood clot is smaller. Week 8 we went for the scan and this time there was no heartbeat
It has been a crazy emotional roller-coaster the last 4 weeks and I am in still so much physical and emotional pain. I can't seem to stop asking why? It was so difficult to even conceive and we had to go thru ivf and even then couldn't hold on to the pregnancy
I'm sorry to hear that, ladies... Take good care and rest well. Hugs!
hopeful_mum
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Every day drink? They say Heaty wor. Maybe drink alternate days?
glacierchocolate
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Ya! You will be very heaty ley! Ginger is already heaty also..
Give a hope
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We spent ard $2k plus for all the test...I will be going for blood test for pre IVIG test...
Err like me my hub he always says dunno how to cook...1st mc not really got take bu 2nd mc my mum come stayed w me cook for me till b4 I returned to work aft that I drink some bu tang n c TCM to tiao...really hope next pregnancy everything will be fine n I am able to carry my rainbow baby on hand
haze02
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Oh...!! Cannot everyday wor... Everyday I only prepare a long flask and drink it finish... Wouldn't replace with warm water lor... Last time I will drink everyday wor... Inculding wolfberries, red dates and longan, I didn't get any prob wor... Maybe my body is those super liang lor... My previous TCM saying my body is terrible liang... Tat why I often get backache etc.. So even a mouth of ice cream is harmful to me. Shake head! My stupid body...
haze02
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We spent ard $2k plus for all the test...I will be going for blood test for pre IVIG test...
Err like me my hub he always says dunno how to cook...1st mc not really got take bu 2nd mc my mum come stayed w me cook for me till b4 I returned to work aft that I drink some bu tang n c TCM to tiao...really hope next pregnancy everything will be fine n I am able to carry my rainbow baby on hand
I'm already done with those recurrent miscarriage blood test... We paid ard 1k plus wor... Why u cost so much.
I show my private gynea all the report... He say Dr Anita missed out some test... The next checkup with my gynea, will ask him give me a lists of test that missed... So I can go back Nuh for those tests... Got susidize ma, why spend blood test on private rate.. Haha!
U still have ur mother to help out... My mother suffer from depression so I can't depend on her.... My Mil couldn't handle well abt my first MC, end up I have to console her instead n didn't receive any helps... So the rest of the MC I avoid let them know... Only person is my hubby... He sweet to learn recipe thru the internet and Fren's recipe too...
hopeful_mum
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My mum is making me red date with dried longan tea daily for me to drink. Safe for pregnancy also right lol. I'm not doubting my mum she loves me like we would love our kids. But hair being paranoid lol
hopeful_mum
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Ur hubby super sweet!
hopeful_mum
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Yes mdm I will guai guai. She now gan chiong will call and check on me. Say I cannot go here there etc. So I really guai guai!