Hi Beverly,
Sorry to hear about your bb.
I underwent an abortion in December last year. It was my 2nd pregnancy and during my 11th week visit to gynea, she detected that my bb was also not formed properly. The medical term was anencephaly, which is a severe underdevelopment of the brain. And, the cause is due to a lack of folic acid. My gynea informed that the lack of folic acid will either cause anencephaly or spina bifida.
Well, when i heard this, i was shocked. I was ordered a 2nd opinion immediately by my gynea and the result was the same.
As there was no point keeping the bb, cos the chance to survive after birth is zero, my gynea advised of aborting it.
Well, as this is my 2nd preg, the 1st one was so smooth sailing that i've never thot this would actually happen to me.
Due to my bb was still small, the procedure was a D&C, and it was a day surgery. I checked in into the hospital at 10am in the morning, the procedure was done at 1pm, and i went home at abt 4pm.
For me, i had breast milk coming 1 week after the D&C. The way to stop it without medication is to leave it alone, and dun massage or try to sqeeze the milk out. Cos this will stimulate and might cause the breast to produce more milk. After a few days of leaving the breast alone, the milk will stop.
You should rest as much as possible and do a mini confinement.
As for seeing the bb, i didn't get to see it.. but, during my followup visit to my gynea 2 weeks later, she gave me a copy of the photo taken before the body was disposed.
I'm now trying to conceive again. One thing to remember, u might want to try to talk folic acid from now on, so that in future, if u were to conceive again, at least it's asured that we're not lack of folic acid.
Lastly, altho it's really heart breaking to go through all these, always remember that we have to move on for ourselve, our hb and family who love us a lot and for our future children.
