Hi coral,
Hugs hugs... Your hubby is very sweet to go over to keep you company for the weekends
Hubby's support and love is the most comforting
It gotta do with the subconscious mind which will take some time for the experience to "go away". When I started, I had nightmares every nite and woke up to cry every nite. At that time, I was already not thinking about it during the day time. I told my gynae and he said it's in my subconscious mind. Over time, I dun think about the sad things, but happy things, my night mares reduced
It will take time, but we gotta try
I used to be able to plan and control what I want in life. I first got into depression when my research work just did not turn out how I wanted it to be. And I get lots of pressure from my family to graduate. At that time, nobody in my family wanted me to return home, except my hubby. I felt so depressed then that nobody want me anymore. But I came back and the miscarriage hit me, which worsen my depression... At that time, I felt so hopeless and lost all my directions and my motivation to get what I wanted. Slowly, I read a lot of books and attend courses to help myself. Now, I know what I wanted, it's just that I am trying very hard to get back my motivation to work on my goals again.
In my current pregnancy, I have not told my family. I dunno what I will get from them cos none of them will be happy and support me cos they never did in my previous 2 pregnancies, but give me more stress instead. Main reason is becos I have not graduate to make them happy. Oh dear.... I better stop here else I gonna cry non-stop already
There's still hope
I am sure you will be in control of your life soon and be confident again
I am telling myself this:
"Fan2 shi4 fa1 shen1 bi4 you3 qi2 mu4 di4,
qi1 jie2 guo3 bi4 you3 li4 yi1 wo3"
We will be able to handle any hurdles in life better next time
hee... this weekend I am going for another motivational course
kekeke.. my hubby gonna miss me for 2 days already
Next week gonna miss him too cos he's going to Beijing for work... Ok la... now continue thinking of my romantic trip to Paris with my hubby