kidz and chobeemama, hope your org's events went smoothly and were great successes!
Kidz, I agree with you on both points. Two entirely new strangers....all 3 parties have to adjust to so many different things at one go. And the irony of us modern women, it is such a joke isn't it? hahaha...
Let me share how I sent my maid back on Sunday. I think some mummies might have felt that we were a bit cruel. I thot I was...till later.
We felt that we should let her attend mass, since it was sunday, and only send her back after lunch. So after church, we went to my mum's place, had lunch and left baby and maid there. Hb and I went back home to go through her things (ok, all this talk abt privacy etc...but she infringed on ours too...but does it mean we do the same back? hmmm.) Anyway, hb felt that if we were to let her come home to pack and we go through her stuff one by one in front of her, it may be more dangerous and that would give her time to think. He wanted to do it "military" style - spring you a surprise attack. and before you can get over the surprise, you're out of my territory...kinda thing.
So we went through her clothing etc piece by piece, and we stacked her stuff neatly in the living room. Toiletries etc, we placed neatly in plastic bags. Everything was moved to the living room. We removed the stuff which she took from us (stuff that we know for sure that are ours and stuff that we don't want to 'donate' to her). Then we went back to Clementi to pick her up. Left my bb with my sister and told maid to just follow us. Think she started to get nervous. Then, just outside our own home door, hb told her, "later you pack your bags". At first she nodded her head and said orh. Then she opened her eyes big big "you mean my clothes, everything?" So I told her straight in the face, Yes. Everything has been moved to the living room." And she just said, Oh, ok. and could even roll her eyes!
And throughout the whole packing process, she was quite arrogant. She even told me to pass 2 bottles of shampoo to my father's maid. Guess she was trying to show me how close they are kinda thing. All in, she took 15 min to pack and go.
Before she packed, I told her to remove anything that she might have borrowed and anything that is not hers. She didn't remove anything except the little bag which I had openly / "officially" loaned her. She had quietly taken some of my old clothes (clothes that I could no longer fit into - and she's fatter than me, so I dunno what she wants my old clothes for. Super sexy tops?). I purposely placed the old clothes separately next to her own clothes. I wanted to see what she would do (am prepared to give her those clothes). She just packed them into her bag, as though they are hers!
At agency, we requested for a body search. And agent found 2 HP on her. one of which, is my brother's old HP. Checked with my bro (who doesn't stay with me), and his old hp was gone. She just has this habit of taking stuff from other pple's homes. So after we found that out, I don't feel that we've been cruel to move her stuff into living room and gave her only 15 min to pack.
Now, with this new maid, she is new in SG. never come out before. Hence, super BLUR....arrgghh....but so far, her attitude is she is willing to learn lah. Told her to wake up at 6am, she wakes up at 5am. wow... But she's qutie blur lah. almost gave me a heart attack yesterday when she wanted to dunk my pigeon steriliser into the sink to fill it with water to sterilise the bottles (that was after I had shown her how to use the steriliser). muahahaha. but well, it was her 1st day. I'll do up an instruction sheet for her and paste it on the steriliser, so she can follow lah...hehs. As long as the attitude is good, all these things can be taught.
