Grumpus/Panda
Yah very amazing how the tots know where they are when they are sleeping. My #2 now don't want to sleep in his cot, cry and whine, took him out, he walk to his future single bed to sleep...After he fall asleep I put him back in his cot, 1 hr later he got up and cry. This went on for a few cycles until I surrender, 3am, I co-sleep with him cos even with barrier, the gap still big for his size and when he sleeps he rolls to every corner. Last few days, putting him to bed is a struggle, cos I tried to force him to sleep in his cot. Last night, no drama roll around and KO in 5mins, maybe he knows its mother's day, be nice to me...haha.
Gan
Maybe she trying to sayang, but can't control her strength or your reaction when that happens seems funny to her, so she continue to do it.
My #2 also hit very hard until #1 will cry sometimes. I will tell him, 'pain, no'. Then I will hold his hand and demo, saying 'gentle' each time.