Humbug,
Yeah yeah, Fancy could be having triplets, I inexperienced, did not know that 900 could imply triplets…!!!
Very exciting as I hardly know anyone who has triplets…
Fancy,
You excited or not?
You sisters here seem all jumping up and down for you.
Orangey,
Congrats on conceiving your little orange or oranges…heeheee..
Leo_Baby,
Prof wong is the head of ivf at NUH. What I like about him is his professionalism, straightforwardness/systematic, of course competence and the above three all hides a very good heart. Many doctors with the above three qualities lack the last but he has all the four. One eg of his competence and straightforwardness/systematic, after seeing more than 5 gynaes or even more (some do IVF too), he was the only one who bothered to give me a day 3/day21 test after I told him I got irregular menses and got not really trace any problem. All the others make me go round in circles either due to their moods on that day or time constraint or some, sadly monetary concerns. He has good knowledge, the right attitude/integrity and he also does not rush you off as the nurses are very strict about issuing appointments and do not overcrowd the clinic. That flipside of course is a little harder to get appointments compared to private clinics who can really squeeze us in last minute. And very often, I find that no matter how competent a doctor is, if he/she does not have a bit of "wanting to help patient from the bottom of the heart and not just doing a prestigous profession" attitude, he/she cannot be a good doctor throughly. He is has that attitude loh..
Hope that gives you a better idea about him.
About your experiences and dilemma about who to share this major challenge in life with, sadly I have your experience and its this ttcing journey that I learn how to identify and treasure really good people. Also have a friend like yours who asked me right down to how many times I ttc with my hubby per month and asked me for all the ideas about how to ttc. I shared everything. She said she is not ttcing as she is very busy. But we shared the same gynae then and one day, the gynae told me that she is pregnant after doing IUI. I went to congrats her and ask her if she is worried so dare not tell me. She created a lie that she was overseas and the next thing she did was went to reprimand our gynae quite badly. Of course the gynae should have kept hush hush but he thought we were ttc buddies as she always ask me to ask him questions on her behalf as she does not want to visit him so often. I used her as my mirror and learn from her behavior and now I follow this principle:
1. Only tell people whom I trust about doing ivf and they must have ivf knowledge. And only tell those who won't judge. Need not be sympathic but at least wont judge loh. And there are indeed people like luckily. And are friends for life
2. For those who kept asking me when I want to have kids but thought ivf is painless and useless(I call them family planning policewomen…heheee..) and whom I trust and care about me, I will tell them I want but having difficulties. Will skip the ivf part though. Very often, these true friends won't ask again but you know they are quietly worried for you.
3. For those who kept asking but I know ask so that they can judge and compare, I tell them I let nature take its course, no special plans.
4. And still give people the benefit of the doubt that they are not like your ivf friend or my friend but once know they are insincere and want to take advantage, quarantiee info sharing..heeehee..