Fatefully,
Since Ron mentioned me as a recent example of one who failed fresh & succeeded w fet, I tot I shall post smthg for u.. & to cheer other sisters on too...
I oso noticed tt u r taking a very similar path as me.. I m oso 33 tis year.. & I tink my af came earlier than urs.. Mine came 10dpt.. Both Dr Loh & Dr Zou said no way!! Dr Zou even told me she spent 1/2 day helping me tink wat went wrong & y af came tis early.. & end up she has no answer... Dr Loh shook his head, saying my eggs grading (grade 5) r soo good, lining looks good on ET day.. But still...
Wat I m trying to say is there is no 1 answer for failure.. If yes, the answer may b.. It's not my turn yet.. But we muz always believe tt our turn ll come soon...
I seem to feel tt u r taking tis ivf journey as an exam & got hit by the failure.. But I rem 1 sister said.. Ivf is not our exam.. Nobody marks our results.. Ivf is our chance to b mummies.. If tis chance don't work, try the next, the next & so on..
In a way, I m quite similar to u.. I lost courage aft my bfn.. I even tot to go fet after resting 1/2 yr.. Thanks to sisters here, I found the courage to face wat I m supposed to.. 1 sister in particular ask me.. wat is the baseline? & the reply is adoption.. Juz try & try & if fate calls for it, we conclude tt we hv done our best & go for adoption... So, we ll still b mummies in our lives..
& rem tis, u can b lacking in courage to proceed but ur snowbabies r waiting for u.. Give them a chance to b ur babies...
Lastly, hv u considered 1 of the reason for bfn is not physical reason? I admit I was very results orientated during my fresh.. & I tink tt was the main reason for my bfn.. During fet, I took it more light heartedly.. So u need to consider ur state of mind too..
That being said, hv a good cry, pick urself up & go for fet whn u r ready.. Keep telling urself how strong the desire to b mummy is...
All the best to u & all other sisters...
Pinpanter/ Linda:
Dr Zou once told me a grp of gals made frens in her clinic & went to AMK hub to eat.. R ur the ones? I hv made 4 good frens on tis forum too, including kimmy & Dr Zou was so happie to hear tt... She always believe in de-stressing w fellow sisters.. Such a lovely doctor.. :-D