Dear Juvi,
Regarding CL, I was totally clueless too! After seeking advice here, I needed to think through what are my needs and wants and preferences before I can ask questions and find out if she may fit my criteria. But I think most importantly is to get someone through word of mouth, will be best!!!
Some questions you may wanna consider:
1. Are you pro-breastfeeding?
(I wanna breastfeed, some CLs are against it and will keep demoralising you.)
2. What would you suggest for night feeds if I want to breastfeed?
(Some will say use formula milk, some say expressed breast milk so that u can have a good sleep, some say she will bring to you for latch on breastfeeding)
3. Cloth diapers or disaposable?
(Some will say disaposable whole day - some will refuse to wash cloth diapers, unless of course u have maid to wash cloth diapers. Some will say day time cloth, night time disaposable. But for breastfeeding, i heard baby poos a lot.)
4. Sleeping arrangements?
(Some will wanna sleep alone with baby, some needs an afternoon nap)
5. Cooking?
(Some cook just for mum and themselves. Some cook for hubby and other family members as well.)
6. Housework?
(Some will do sweeping, mopping daily and cleaning of kitchen after cooking.)
7. Menu
(Check what she prepares for u throughout the day. Some for breakfast only do bread, some will cook mee sua. And other than 3 meals, should have tea break, maybe supper and also soups, tonics, etc.)
8. Boiled water
(Check if she'd boil water for u to use at all times, like boil beforehand and cool overnight so that u have boiled water to use in the day to wash up etc.)
9. Work permit
(For freelance, ensure she wants you to do work permit for her. If she suggests you don't apply in order to save some money, beware that there're consequences if found out!)
10. Babycare
(If you have preferences, tell her and see what she says. For eg bathing baby how many times, etc)
11. Other Info
- Years of experience
- How many assignments in singapore a year
> But she may or may not tell the truth la
- If u have pets, also ask if she is ok with pets.
Any other advice from others?
