Serene
My mom once told me this. Once the kids are out, somehow we will all manage with or without help. Your eldest being 6 will come in handy to bbsit a little. More so she is a girl. I come from a family of 3 as well n being eldest, girls are naturally inclined to be caretakers. I look at my dd who is now going 3, she has already exhibited the natural instinct to care for younger ones. Dun have to teach, it comes naturally. By the time ur #3 is out, ur #2 is also going to be 3. I find that once kids are going to be 3 or after that, it is more manageable.
The age gap is actually good, 3 and 4 yr age. If i can still plan for a 3rd one next year given my ability, i wd go for it and close shop.
Sure i will have less money to spend on enrichment class, luxury or even need to bidget tighter and probably more hot-tempered than ever when kids fight, disagree or get on my nerve. These wd all be temporary. Once they are teenagers, i think we are easier but headache on other issues like bgr, turning wayward etc. By then u wd miss these moments. My mom always says kids grow up way too fast. On and off, i also find that my dd is growing up too fast though i cannt stand her many times. They are angels and demons in 1 ok.
I think u r superb in managing your kids while hb is on shift. All will turn out fine. I do trust that u will do fine even with #3.
The mommies here are very encouraging and we have a bunch of mommies who are 2nd or 3rd time like yourself. This nov 11 bb thread has a great mix of 1st and experienced moms for support, listening ear and stories. Very different from the 1st time i joined as a new moms where 99% of moms are 1st-timer.
U r in the right place and ur child has made the path for u as well. Whenever it is so difficult to see light at the moment, we will break down but we will continue because the kids will give u strength to do it. This love is so powerful than ourselves and at the end of the day, u will be amazed at how u manage. I believe u have that spirit to manage [IMG=http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/clipart/happy.gif]