Hi mummies.. how's everyone doing? I just need to voice out over here.. been very unhappy ever since i got discharged from hospital and also crying every day.. my baby suddenly look very yellow, even the eye white also look yellowish.. i'm worried is her jaundice increasing.. she didnt have jaundice till the day she discharged, 10.6 but now like more yellow than before. i suspect is due to the ginger my mum cooked in the food and yet she thinks it is normal and she insists i need to have ginger in all my meals.
Baby also has diaper rash which looks quite serious, even her private parts also look red and "peeling".. when i use water and cotton to clean her she will cry.. dunno is it because it hurts? luckily tmr is her checkup and i can check with the PD.
Secondly, i have very painful engorgement. nipples also sore from feeding. but cos no bleeding so i continue to BF even though damn pain.. but thank god my massage lady, mdm suria helped to massage my breasts & from her i learnt to pump regularly.. now still trying to stick to a schedule to feed bb every 3 hrs and pump after that...
i think i have a hard time coping with my confinement even though it's just the 3rd day. i am forced to bathe with the herbs and i am allergic to them that my whole body is full of red patchy rashes. not only that, i have to bathe with the herb water when it is scalding hot. now i just simply dun care, after using the herbs i will rinse my body with the normal heater water, and i bathe myself again at nite cos the weather is so hot and i am perspiring and feel so dirty.
lastly.. my MIL is causing me a lot of stress. since day 1 in hosp, she has been visiting me daily and will carry bb non-stop. even when my friends come to visit me, she also not auto enough to put bb down for my friends to see or carry. and she keeps patting the baby when she sleeping.. told her not to keep patting or carrying cos i dun wan bb to get used to it & she like not happy...
first time, i told her NOT to come in when i am BF-ing.. but she keep peeping then end up, become a routine for her to remain the the room when i BF. Then she will comment on my nipple, tummy, etc... very irritated... when she went hospital to visit me, the first thing she did was not to come to my ward but straightaway go nursery to get my baby out first. i hate it esp when bb is sleeping and she keeps touching and making bb wake.
now i am doing confinement at mum's house, she drops by almost daily. until now she dun even bother to inform us when she's coming. Once she came and i was alone with baby. her husband (hubby's stepfather) then very auto sit on the sofa & on the TV. then she start to carry the baby liao lor (my mum ard, she also dun dare to carry)..
choosing of baby's name, she wanna KPO.. and also she told us after my confinement, need to bring baby to her house to pray to ancestors and then bring her to Bugis temple. My baby does not share the same surname as the stepfather. Why need to pray at his side? (even my wedding we went to the stepfather's mum house to pray to ancestors!) and for a young bb i really dun wanna bring her to crowded places so soon..
i cannot stand her.. whenever she calls my hubby she always have a new "lobang" and expect us to follow.. i feel very unhappy and hubby said he dun wanna cause conflict so just go ahead.. saying it's only a one-time event.. i really cannot stand the thought of her going near my baby, i am going crazy trying to think of ways to minimize her contact with my bb..
sorry to flood the thread with my long post.. maybe i think too much but i am so upset that i cant do anything and all the pain and restriction is driving me insane!