Jessie: I agree totally! Whether a mother works or not should be her choice, not circumstances. And thankfully DH and his friends (whether single or married) carry with them the exact ideology that men should not get married unless they can provide for the family w/o the wife working. If the women want to, by all means, but it must be their choice.
About keeping sane while being a SAHM, the crucial part for me is keeping with the developments of the world and my industry (i.e. legal), thus I'm able to form my own opinions and hold conversations w/o invoking the 'Emma' talk. And my blackberry. [IMG=http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/clipart/happy.gif] that is my last connection with my working life.
firipy: hello! has it been that long ago?? Wow...how time flies! Well, Emma is still going through stunted hair growth. I hope she'll not be like her daddy, botak till she's 3 year old! [IMG=http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/clipart/sad.gif]
jessie, mindy: yup, ex-smoker here too. when I first quit smoking 4yrs ago, I had really bad anger management issues. Cuz back then it was:
- angry? smoke.
- upset? smoke.
- frustrated? smoke.
- stressed? smoke.
- happy? smoke.
- chit chat? smoke.
- drinking? smoke.
- waiting? smoke.
- bored? smoke.
So when I was any one of the above and had no ciggies, I didn't know what to do! Especially when I was angry, I didn't know where to divert my anger to or how to deal with it. Slowly I learned to walk away. Constantly walking away from frustrating situations before I begin hammering people (which, sometimes the interns kenna from me).
Honestly, I believe smoking is more psychological than anything else. I've never had withdrawal symptoms before, but the first year when I quit I was constantly pek-chek cuz I had to learn to deal with my emotions w/o that ciggie.
About keeping sane while being a SAHM, the crucial part for me is keeping with the developments of the world and my industry (i.e. legal), thus I'm able to form my own opinions and hold conversations w/o invoking the 'Emma' talk. And my blackberry. [IMG=http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/clipart/happy.gif] that is my last connection with my working life.
firipy: hello! has it been that long ago?? Wow...how time flies! Well, Emma is still going through stunted hair growth. I hope she'll not be like her daddy, botak till she's 3 year old! [IMG=http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/clipart/sad.gif]
jessie, mindy: yup, ex-smoker here too. when I first quit smoking 4yrs ago, I had really bad anger management issues. Cuz back then it was:
- angry? smoke.
- upset? smoke.
- frustrated? smoke.
- stressed? smoke.
- happy? smoke.
- chit chat? smoke.
- drinking? smoke.
- waiting? smoke.
- bored? smoke.
So when I was any one of the above and had no ciggies, I didn't know what to do! Especially when I was angry, I didn't know where to divert my anger to or how to deal with it. Slowly I learned to walk away. Constantly walking away from frustrating situations before I begin hammering people (which, sometimes the interns kenna from me).
Honestly, I believe smoking is more psychological than anything else. I've never had withdrawal symptoms before, but the first year when I quit I was constantly pek-chek cuz I had to learn to deal with my emotions w/o that ciggie.