rona, errr .. not true tat #2 comes, #1 will get lesser attention leh. Maybe for the initial period only.
My #1 gets all my attention that poor Kai is "neglected" cos he dunno how to fight for my attention yet. My #1 can ask for attention "Mama, can u read with me?" "Mama, acn you watch TV with me?"".... sometimes I just have to tell him "Mama needs to spend some time with Didi cos u get a lot of Mama time and Didi don't".
Kai somewhat has become independent on his own and can self entertain. For #1, he always need me or somebody around to play with him, read with him, etc. Kai can grab a book and turn the pages quietly by himself.
For my case, #1 was not jealous of Didi cos I read a book (mainly one only) with him about preparing him for Didi's arrival and him welcoming Didi by saying "Welcome Baby!", bring balloons to hospital, draw a card, help mama out with baby. With all the preparation, in the end he kenna chicken pox and I almost din wan him to come visit. I felt that it did help that he understood from the book and accepted the new baby.