Shinely
Its normal. Maybe if you really dun want to confront him, you may want to think of way to suggest tat u can participate wif him to watch together, if both of you have never done so. But you must be comfortable cos I knw for woman to see, its so disgusting cos we think tat we can satisfy our man enuf that they have to resort to watching.
For my hubby, he also has the videos n books before i knw him. He was shy tat i saw he had when i pack his room when i was his gf then. Then i purposely take and flip at it in front of him n he took it away say he will throw away. Then he told me he prefer reading stories than see the pictures or video. So it was along the way that I get to discover wat his preference. Hence, different man has different technique tat they preferred to be stimulated. Some enjoy toys, some enjoy real woman (affair), some enjoy just watch video but even video has different types (like my hubby say he hates those go straight to the act or violent ones), some read, etc... So from talking to him, I feel assured what goes on in his mind.
Its difficult to understand their silent brain cos they dun express, but by encouraging n chatting wif them, u can slowly knw their thots. Of course initially u will feel cheated abt it when hearing but slowly is just part n parcel of life. Dun avoid it as sthg disgusting, else the worst to see is one day, he can find another woman tat can openly discuss wif him (as u never knw wat outside woman can do), then he may wonder why his wife doesnt.
There r times tat I take a nap early n hubby was surfing his laptop for work in front of me. Then whn i woke up, i saw him reading those stories. And he get a shock when he realised i was awake. I just put my hands on his shoulder n assure him its ok. Even then, he still feel uncomfortable too. So we might even tot that their discreet movt make us even more suspicious why they must do behind our back. But just tat they r shy loh PLUS smtx they feel lousy themselves for all you knw tat they have to resort to this. Actually we tot we dun satisfy them well, smtx, they may tot they dun satisfy us well so they watch the video to ensure that there's nthg wrong wif themselves or hw can they learn sthg to spice the s** life.
I even qn my hubby smtx why he must read then will cum, then i wld feel that i'm nt the person he tink he is making love too. Then he told me altho he tot thru the scene or stories, but when he rch his peak, he will recall those satisfying previous making love session tat we had. So its actually a phase for them to just have a comfort space to read or watch those pxxx, so tat they can bring their hormone in the mind from a stress to relax state. Whereas smtx whn we just go straight to sxx, esp for man, to them its like an act for performance, which my hubby ever told me like he must perform n if he dun he feel like failure.
So different man has different ways or take different time to achieve their peak. Participate n chat wif him like a topic. Hope you find your discovery wif your hubby. Its healthy to talk n share wif hubby. Nothing wrong.