re: hubby
thanks gals for all your encouraging words. i am feeling better now.
my post yesterday is just after i quarrelled with him.
in fact, he is quite a hands on person compared to most of my guy friends.
being the only son at home, he does clean his own room, vacuum and mop the house.
i was quite impressed by him last time. and even after marriage, he does share the housework by mopping the floor and wash the toilet occasionally.
when i was pregnant, he help to hang the clothes after washing.
now, with a kid around, his job scope doesn't change and he doesn't seem to notice that he need to widen his job scope. since i am no longer pregnant, i got to hang the clothes by myself.
for a typical sunday (i am working on Sat), the moment i wake up, i need to do the following:
(1) feed C milk
(2) load the clothes for washing
(3) prepare C breakfast and feed C
(4) breakfast for myself
(5) prepare C lunch (while doing this, C will be playing her plastic spoon and cups in the kitchen)
(6) hang the clothes out
from (1)-(6), hubby watch TV or make C sleep by lying on the bed to sleep together with her
(7) go market with hubby and buy lunch for ourselves
(8) have lunch, feed C lunch
while feeding C lunch, hubby still watching TV
(9) wash dishes
finally can have some breather, hubby came and ask me: "you ready to vacuum the floor? i can mop later" *faint*
...........
lucky that my sis do help out on the house cleaning part every alternate weeks. otherwise i will be even 'yellow face'.
i also quarelled with him on that and asked him to vacuum and mop altogether. good that he did that this weekend.
but found out that he skipped the vacuuming and mopping underneath the bed, sofa. and i can see all the dust is all over the place again..
i did think about the option of hiring a part time maid, but we have already hired 1 for my MIL. if going to hire another, then it will increase our expense again.
i am quite stubborn as i see that he's so zobo at home, why can't he help out such that we do not need to incur extra expenses?
if really going to hire, $ should come from his pocket as he's the one that does not help out.
garfield,
i also tried to throw his clothes after folding on his side of the bed for him to put into his own wardrobe. you know what he did?
he pushed them to my side and end up everything is on the floor!! he has higher tolerance than me, what can i do?
lezy,
he actually look after C on Sat while i am working.
there was once he took care of C alone (without MIL/my sis's help), C did not finish her portion of porridge as he say C doesn't like and he did not try hard to feed her.
he anyhow bathe C without washing her hair as he refused to learn to bathe C previously.
when my sis came back, he quickly ran out of the house for a few hours without telling us when was the last milk feed for C.
after i came back from work, found out that the house is in a mess. asked him to help out.
his response is: "i shouldn't come back so early (the tone is full of resentment)"
and he feel that MIL and my sis purposely want to tekan him by leaving him alone with C.