hi Wen Wen,
Sorry to hear about your predicament. I think you should approach AWARE about your job situation. The employer is highly unethical! And I can't believe can't help u! How can our country treat us this way?! Here we are busy producing for the nation and returning to the workforce after consuming our legally entitled leave only to find a foreigner replacing us! It's totally bs. I support writing to FORUM about this issue. In fact, I think you should write to the PM and the Minister of Manpower about this. It's not fair to this citizen. Just go to gov.sg to get the email addresses. I think this unfair employment practice should be highlighted and the fact that we are not protected when we return to our jobs. Did your boss indicate anywhere in black and white regarding not wanting you back? However, going to the Forum would mean not having your old job back (like you would want to), and might even open up possible employment opportunities! Why don't you think abt that? Let me know if you need any email addys to the female MPs, I can pass it to you. Maybe someone like Lily Neo may be more sympathetic to this predicament. PM me if u need her email.
I agree with the mummies that having a bb is a blessing and that having an abortion wld also impact ur subsequent ttc attempts and carrying to term. However, also agree with Joyce that this is between you and your hubby, and that both parties must commit to whatever decision you take. But I'm also sure that things will work itself out if you do decide to continue, since $$ wise, you hv already made the initial "set-up" costs, the extras wld be the medical costs for this 2nd bb.
Regarding the revealing of ur preggers status, frankly, if I'm you, I wouldn't reveal it as it's still very early. I know of a gf who didn't know she's preggie till like the 9th week, so I'm sure you can be forgiven for not knowing till then. If i'm not wrong, once past a certain mth of pregnancy while you are hired, you may not be entitled to the maternity benefits, but I guess these vary from organisation to organisation.