(2007/03) March 2007 MTBs

[mmqq]

star, maybe i am fed up with the centre's admin. talk to them will VOMIT thousand times. haha! luckily i m patient enough for them.
i told u before right, they dun seem to know anything about child thing, they treat them as ADULTS! hor? haha! with all the suggestion and complain letters they have, i wonder if they will revert this to the right personnel within 1 week or not? lets see.
when i went for trial class, there was one lady screaming and scolding the counter ppl. very bad type. aiyo, very very bad type la. then i told myself, wah, this centre quite jialat. haha! or that lady is quite jialat.

kelley, just anything comfortable will do. i was wearing jeans cause i tot jay will go in with her. then end up i went in instead then hb kiao ka outside.

yes, keira kept telling me that it was a MOON, but i told her yue4 liang4. she repeated moon again. alamak. she must be thinking this auntie QQ's english is very bad, moon also dunno.

kelley, tian is already why why why. she ask me why papa why mama put her medicine in that honey medicine bottle. she dun like the medicine la.

 

[kaexin]

HALLOWEEN PARTY
DATE: SUNDAY, OCT 25
TIME - 5 TO 8PM
VENUE: HILLINGTON GREEN, HILLVIEW

1. diane
2. michelle
3. irin
4. huingee
5. QQ

 

[mmqq]

edde, it is time for chinese lesson.
kaexin, sorry. i dun have english version.

"父母永遠只有一個


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媳婦說：

「 煮淡一點妳就嫌沒有味，現在煮鹹一點妳卻說咽不下，

妳究竟想怎麼樣 ？」

母親一見兒子回來，二話不說便把飯菜往咀裡送。

她怒瞪他一眼。

他試了一口，馬上吐出來，

兒子說：「 我不是說過了嗎，媽有病不能吃太鹹！」

「 那好！媽是你的，以後由你來煮！」

媳婦怒氣沖沖地回房。



兒子無奈地輕嘆一聲，然後對母親說：

「 媽，別吃了，我去煮個麵給妳。」

「 仔，你是不是有話想跟媽說，是就說好了，別憋在心裡！

「 媽，公司下個月升我職，我會很忙，

至於老婆，她說很想出來工作，所以 ....」

母親馬上意識到兒子的意思：

「 仔，不要送媽去老人院。」

聲音似乎在哀求。

兒子沉默片刻，他是在尋找更好的理由。



「 媽，其實老人院並沒有甚麼不好，

妳知道老婆一但工作，

一定沒有時間好好服侍妳。

老人院有吃有住有人服侍照顧，不是比在家裡好得多嗎？」

「可是，阿財叔他 ....」



洗了澡，草草吃了一碗速食麵，兒子便到書房去。

他茫然地佇立於窗前，有些猶豫不決。

母親年輕便守寡，含辛茹苦將他撫養成人，供他出國讀書。

但她從不用年輕時的犧牲當作要脅他孝順的籌碼，

反而是妻子以婚姻要脅他！

真的要讓母親住老人院嗎？

仔問自己，他有些不忍。



「 可以陪你下半世的人是你老婆，難道是你媽嗎？」



阿財叔的兒子總是這樣提醒他

「 你媽都這麼老了，好命的話可以活多幾年，

為何不趁這幾年好好孝順她呢？

樹欲靜而風不息，子欲養而親不在啊 ！」

親戚總是這樣勸他。

兒子不敢再想下去，深怕自己真的會改變初衷。



夕晚，太陽收斂起灼熱的金光，躲在山後憩息。

一間建在郊外山崗的一座貴族老人院。



是的，錢用得越多，兒子才心安理得。

當兒子領著母親步入大廳時，

嶄新的電視機，42吋的螢幕正播放著一部喜劇，

但觀眾一點笑聲也沒有。



幾個衣著一樣，髮型一樣的老嫗歪歪斜斜地坐在梳化上，

神情呆滯而有一個老人在自言自語，

有個正緩緩彎下腰，想去撿掉在地上的一塊餅乾吃。

兒子知道母親喜歡光亮，

所以為她選了一間陽光充足的房間。

從窗口望出去，樹蔭下，一片芳草如茵。

幾名護士推著坐在輪椅的老者在夕陽下散步，

四周悄然寂靜得令人心酸。

縱是夕陽無限好，畢竟已到了黃昏，他心中低低嘆息。



「 媽，我........我要走了 ！」

母親只能點頭。

他走時，母親頻頻揮手，

她張著沒有牙的嘴，

蒼白乾燥的咀唇在囁嚅著，一副欲語還休的樣子。

兒子這才注意到母親銀灰色的頭髮，

深陷的眼窩以及打著細紋臉。

母親，真的老了！



他霍然記起一則兒時舊事。

那年他才6歲，母親有事回鄉，不便攜他同行，

於是把他寄住在阿財叔家幾天。

母親臨走時，

他驚恐地抱著母親的腿傷心大聲號哭道：

「 媽媽不要丟下我！媽媽不要走！」



最後母親沒有丟下他。

他連忙離開房間，順手把門關上，不敢回頭，

深恐那記憶像鬼魅似地追纏而來。



他回到家，

妻子與岳母正瘋狂的把母親房裡的一切扔個不亦樂乎。

身高3呎的獎杯──

那是他小學作文比賽「我的母親」第1名的勝利品！

華英字典──

那是母親整個月省吃省用所買給他的第一份生日禮物！

還有母親臨睡前要擦的風濕油，

沒有為她擦，帶去老人院又有甚麼意義呢？



「 夠了，別再扔了！」兒子怒吼道。

﹝這麼多垃圾，不把它扔掉，怎麼放得下我的東西﹞。

岳母沒好氣地說。



「 就是嘛！你趕快把你媽那張爛床給抬出去，

我明天要為我媽添張新的 ！」



一堆童年的照片展現在兒子眼前，

那是母親帶他到動物園和遊樂園拍的照片。



「 它們是我媽的財產，一樣也不能丟！」



「 你這算甚態度？對我媽這麼大聲，我要你向我媽道歉！」



「 我娶妳就要愛妳的母親，

為甚麼妳嫁給我就不能愛我的母親？ 」



雨後的黑夜分外冷寂，街道蕭瑟，行人車輛格外稀少。

一輛寶馬在路上飛馳，頻頻闖紅燈，陷黃格，

呼一聲又飛馳而過。

那輛轎車一路奔往山崗上的那間老人院，

停車直奔上樓，推開母親臥房的門。

他幽靈似地站著，母親正撫摸著風濕痛的雙腿低泣。

她見到兒子手中正拿著那瓶風濕油，

顯然感到安慰的說：

「 媽忘了帶，幸好你拿來！ 」

他走到母親身邊，跪了下來。



「 很晚了，媽自己擦可以了，你明天還要上班，回去吧！」



他囁嚅片刻，終於忍不住啜泣道 ：

「媽，對不起，請原諒我！我們回家去吧 ！」

 

[wiky]

Starfruit,
it all started from confinement time lah. She did all the funny things and I was emotionally unstabled that time cos of RR's prematurity. She almost drove me crazy, haha!! And plus the different family background, upbringing and handling of kids, haiz ... But we still talk, goes to her place once a week & etc ... So still not as bad lah.

 

[kaexin]

QQ,
wahahahaha.... this K chinese really CMI
and my in-laws are supposwe to talk to her more in chinese

ask you gals this.

K really like to say this, many many cars... she seems to like emphasize on the word many.

any other kids is the same ?

 

[kaexin]

QQ,
fainted so long ! no need do translation but what is the gist of it ?

 

[starfruit]

RR: i am surprised cos i tot u quite easy going one leh.. the chin cai type.. hehe anyway that time preggy so abit imbalance.. now ok can liao.

Kaexin: rae now into "Maybe".. she will go "Maybe i want this.." and she is like a broken radio.. repeat and repeat non stop.. until my ears are ringing!

 

[mmqq]

continue:
隨著自己愈長大，

看著父母親臉龐從年輕變憔悴，

頭髮從烏絲變白髮,動作從迅捷變緩慢，多心疼！



父母親總是將最好、最寶貴的留給我們，

像蠟燭不停的燃燒自己，照亮孩子！

而我呢？

有沒有騰出一個空間給我的父母，

或者只是在當我需要停泊岸時，

才會想起他們……

其實父母親要的真的不多，

只是一句隨意的問候：爸、媽，你們今天好嗎？」

隨意買的宵夜，煮一頓再普通不過的晚餐，

睡前幫他們盖盖被子，

天冷幫他們添衣服、戴手套……

都能讓他們高興溫馨很久。



有時，我常在想：我希望我的子女以後如何對我。

那現在，我有沒有如此對待我的父母？

我相信，人是環環相扣的；

現在，你如何對待你的父母；

以後，你的子女就如何待你。



朋友，人世間最難報的就是父母恩，

願我們都能：以反哺之心奉敬父母，以恩之心孝順父母！



∼共勉之∼

生命不要求我們成為最好的，只要求我們作最大的努力！

老人安養院牆上發現的一篇文章

孩子！當你還很小的時候，

我花了很多時間，教你慢慢用湯匙、用筷子吃東西。

教你繫鞋帶、扣扣子、溜滑梯、教你穿衣服、梳頭髮、擰鼻涕。

這些和你在一起的點點滴滴，是多麼的令我懷念不已。

所以，當我想不起來，接不上話時，

請給我一點時間，等我一下，

讓我再想一想……極可能最後連要說什麼，我也一併忘記。

孩子！

你忘記我們練習了好幾百回，

才學會的第一首娃娃歌嗎？

是否還記得每天總要我絞盡腦汁，

去回答不知道你從哪裡冒出來的嗎？

所以，當我重覆又重覆說著老掉牙的故事，

哼著我孩提時代的兒歌時，體諒我。

讓我繼續沉醉在這些回憶中吧！

切望你，也能陪著我閒話家常吧！

孩子，現在我常忘了扣扣子、繫鞋帶。

吃飯時，會弄髒衣服，梳頭髮時手還會不停的抖，

不要催促我，要對我多一點耐心和溫柔，

只要有你在一起，就會有很多的溫暖湧上心頭。

孩子！如今，我的腳站也站不穩，走也走不動。

所以，請你緊緊的握著我的手，陪著我，慢慢的。

就像當年一樣，我帶著你一步一步地走。

若為人子女也不懂得如何體諒他們，

那他們便只能於痛苦中渡過餘生，黑暗中逝去....

 

[kaexin]

star,
so for us the word "maybe", we havent exposed her to the word freq enuf ?? do u usually use the word maybe ??

 

[mmqq]

kaexin,
it is a story about a son, wife and his mum (mil).

and how much that he gives his mum is so little and young ppl should treasure and be thankful about the old ppl.

our kids will treat us the way we treat our parents.

aiya, i am not good at summarising, edde laoshi can help.

 

[babylovespink2]

Wow! Last night was so active after I logged off..

SQ, Astro: Although I'm not the one cleaning up, I'm not ok with ayden not wearing a bib. But right now, he's not at the age where he understands everything we say, much less to be able to reason with him. Maybe when he's older I can tempt him he needs to look neat.

Pink: Condos have guidelines on how the facade can look. Don't think changing windows is an option at all. May have more luck with installing grilles. Raise the concern of ungrilled windows with the management committee and understand from them what options are available to you.
Agree with you on the perception of an only son. Cos I feel he's likely to be pampered and is unable to take care of others as well as those with siblings.

QQ, RR, HN: My hubby is also very filial. I feel lots of things in life depends on our perspective. We "complain" becos' we're not the beneficiaries of their filial peity. But if we are the parents, we'll want our children to be just as filial right? It took me some time to come to terms with hubby always running errands for my ILs, which means taking time away from us. Used to complain how come his brother doesn't share in this load etc. Now I actually see this as a "benefit" and hope my children will learn from him. Hehe..

QQ: I will also want to siam4 them next time. One thing for sure, I don't want them to stay with us. Better to be staying close to us but not in the same household. They can park their children and maids with us once in a while to have their er4 ren2 shi4 jie4. I will jagar their maids while the maids jagar the kids.

Star: Yah, I swing him left and right counting 1, 2, and on the third count, swing him into the water and out again. He was totally ok, not coughing or choking and eyes still open.

Then after a while, I did it again. 1, 2 and go again. Hubby wasn't very pleased though, so I stopped.
Good idea to let her wear the swimwear over her nice ones.

Will try this next time.
Re Flash Forward, it's nice leh. I was a bit scared over one part. You can catch the next series next week same time.

 

[starfruit]

Huignee: wha tights and short skirt.. hahah.. i think i wear exercise pants can liao.

 

[mmqq]

huingee, 5 years ago i can still wear so nicely, tights and skirt.
now?? i better dun make the whole class puke. super hugh thighs and?? .. haha!
kelley still can.

 

[starfruit]

kaexin: i am not concious of what i say leh.. not sure if we use "maybe" frequently.. but i dun think so.. i think she picked up from the disney website. i give u the link below.

SQ/QQ: here is the site i was telling u about where she picked up a lot of words from.
http://tv.disney.go.com/playhouse/mickeymouseclubhouse/stories/ohtoodles/index.html

 

[huingee]

starfruit, QQ,
Haha, i also cannot wear like that.

If it's me i ony wear jeans loh.
But i see some people wear dress, those abit hugging kind with tights. Nice.

 

[wiky]

Starfruit,
haha, I never thought I'll have those problem too cos I'm quite easy on alot of things. Guessed it was the after-birth emotions then and caused the "xin1 bing4" till now.
But I know she dotes on me alot lah. Every week we go will have "da4 yu2, da4 rou4. She'll ask my BIL to go buy crab for me, buy my favourite green tea mooncake & etc ... I'm quite gan dong cos I know they don't eat all these de.

 

[starfruit]

QQ: just tighs can liao.. hahah u saw my jumbo tighs last sunday...maybe u were too polite to comment.. haha

 

[wiky]

Kaexin,
RR won't say "many many", they'll say "wah! so many!" I think they are overwhelmed by the "many" things?

 

[kelley]

Starfruit: hahaa.. u see me so up ah.. thanks.. hahaa... u make my day!

Kaexin: ya loh.. i super impressed... QQ taught well!!! Jiao dao you fang!

Huignee: i can’t wear tights la.. i look like u know wat “ Flamingo”!!.. only thing i not pink.. tanned flamingo...

Pink: ash was the one loh.. w/o wings n shoes.. lucky tian don’t 1.. but she changed her mind after giving.. hahaha.. than the teacher give pple sticker... but still nv give ash.. haha.. ashlyn keep asking me.. mummy i want wings.. i want wings...

QQ: u go where buy ur wings.. may bi shld buy one too! Tian reali very gd gal hor.. u still same she same like ash.. omg.. sorry eh.. reali paiseh.. i thnk ur hb don’t like me liao.. his face damn black when tian cried knowing ashlyn took her wings.. 

 

[huingee]

Kelley,
SKP the one selling plastic bags/ plates got selling wings too.

 

[starfruit]

RR: wha ur IL not bad lah.. maybe cos the babies... all in experience, what has pass is pass. Anyway its very nice for ur MIL to prepare ur favourite food.

QQ/Kelley/Pink/Hua Jing/bunnie: maybe we need to go shop for nice dancing clothes for the mummies.. hahaha

 

[kaexin]

kelley,
i also have the wings, that time Star helped me to get fm SKP.

 

[starfruit]

kelley: the SKP opp POSB at ur side should have. if not, u got to the SKP at kovan heartland mall.. about $5 only.. cheap cheap.

Kaexin:call lah.. maybe some of them only cam efor trial and do not want to cont after the class yesterday? if not u join us next term lor.

 

[kaexin]

RR,
my MIL treat me ok too, since i go over for dinner every day fm mon-fri, she will make sure the dishes she cook, i will eat, if 1 veggie i dont eat, she will cook another veggie that i do eat! and they dont really fancy soups, but she will cook them coz she knows i like soups! lst week, she even ask me whether can she serve the same soup on 3rd day coz on 2nd day, ws din go over for dinner. i told her since got left over, then go ahead dont waste. she feels paiseh to serve soup/food more than 2 days.

 

[babylovespink2]

Star: I wanted to tell you. Pu Tian has opened up many outlets now. And their servings are smaller so good for small gatherines. Hubby and I had lunch at the Jurong Point outlet. Was really yummy..

Hehehe..

 

[starfruit]

QQ; forgot to tell u, i post in WTB for used tap dancing shoes.. see if got response a not.

 

[kaexin]

Star,
maybe we will go n join but not this week, coz we will be out of town from fri-sunday.

 

[kaexin]

huingee,
actually, i wore tights and a dress to work. bought 1 dress shirt fm bossini when star told me got disc. kekeke... fm kovan mall when i went lunch

 

[starfruit]

AAA: is from the same outlet at kitchener road. its so coincidental cos hb and i were just chatting about pu tien yesterday when we were having dinner.. we wanted to go eat lah.

 

[huingee]

AAA,
Ya Pu Tian food is very nice. We used to go to the vivocity one. Great that they open another outlet in JP.

 

[babylovespink2]

Star: Yes, same. Food standard is equally good.

There're quite a few outlets. I think 8. Can only remember Vivo City, Tampiness Mall, Parkway Parade etc. Not sure which one is the most convenient to you.

 

[babylovespink2]

HN: Yup.. The food is really yummy. I like their pork flass brinjal, lychee sweet and sour pork, hing hua bee hoon and the cold cut pork pieces. Wah! Actually I told hubby today I want to look for people to go eat there with me. But think too last min lah..

 

[starfruit]

huignee: vivo has one? how come i dunno where isit located? i still like the kitchener road one but the parking sucks there.

kaexin: wha shopping at heartland mall.. yeah bossini is cheap and good.

 

[wiky]

Kaexin,
I think you and your ILs' relationship is very good leh. At least you all agree eye-to-eye on the upbringing and handling of K. And they take so good care of K.

Starfruit,
for me, I'll just close an eye if it's anything about the kids. Anyway they only see them once a week.

 

[huingee]

AAA,
I like their loh mee and the fried yam. Yes, sweet n sour pork is nice.
My colig like their desert too.

 

[kaexin]

star,
go lunch there mah, so after that sometimes go inside to shop. though nowdays we seem to be freq more of the hainanese mkt got my collg said the spore pools outlet there very heng

 

[kaexin]

RR,
my MIL also said prefer we dont stay together otherwise might have conflicts
sometimes we gang up against ws on his driving.

 

[huingee]

starfruit,
Pu Tien's vivocity outlet is at the food republic food court(level 3, near daiso), one corner. It's good and they dun charge service charge.

 

[babylovespink2]

I feel like bringing them to jacob ballas garden this afternoon if the weather remains as cloudy..

We haven't been there before..

 

[starfruit]

AAA; u can look for me to go eat with u.. wha i am drooling like.. i love the bee hoon too and the brinjal.. yum yum.. and the lychee sweet sour pork.

kaexin: u can also come to upper serangoon shopping center for lunch.. the corner eatry (unfortunately next to the toilet) serves very good food, esp the fried meat ball and aircon is super strong there too and ur collg can also go pink's MIL shop for the 4D..hheheh

 

[starfruit]

Huignee: u mean its part of food republic? as in inside food republic? not a stand alone restaurant right?

 

[babylovespink2]

Star: On! I had a super heavy breaskfast. So am not hungry and very bloated now. I will chio you another day ok?

Ayden is starting his LNT this Thurs. I hope I won't regret my decision to start him. Cos this means I have to attend the lessons with him. .

 

[huingee]

starfruit,
It's inside the food republic, in a corner like Toastbox. But it's like a restuarnt itself. Got waitress.

 

[kaexin]

AAA,
brot K over to botanic gdn yesterday at 5+, and we had dinner on the mat overlookin the concert hall
i went to pack nasi goreng and satay too

star,
really ??? what u mean by fried meat ?

 

[starfruit]

kaexin: fried meat ball.. sorry.. hahaha. declicious

Huignee: ok, next time i go try.

AAA: ayden at the bugis outlet?

 

[mist]

Starfruit, QQ,

Thanks for advice... actually me didn eat alot of sweet stuff leh... but i eat alot of bread!! hahaha...

Autum,

dun worry, u are not the last one... i also hvn't train X to cup yet... recently i'm abit tired lah..

 

[mist]

Autum,

Me hvn't train X to sleep by himself.... but i realised he's abit sticky recently, sometimes he will "ten" to me and say want "mummy bao bao"...

 

[mmqq]

star, i din notive your tights until u said wanna wear for exercise. it is BLACK colour, ok la. u are tall. not too bad. but not the flamingo type lor.
kelley u very funny la.
and no worry, i think they will have enough wings this weekend. huajing, star and myself will bring.
ash is quite cham, no wings, no sticker and no tap shoes. eh sticker got a lot there, how come she never go get sticker from teacher? leia wanted more stickers leh. haha!

my hb was black face not bcoz of ash, or u. it is because of tian. he always like to show his fierce face with tian, as tian refuse to eat!
after lunch (tian ate quite a lot of pizza) and he happie liao, he is like that one.

 

[ash_boo]

helo all!

was on leave last thurs & fri. wanted to scrap full time but end up only did 1 lo

star: as expected of A, when we arrive at the place for his graduation dance & ceremony, he immediately got overwhelmed by the crowd. as they were also hvg mid autumn celebration with games counters etc, it was so crowded. plus it was raining. he was stucked to me while some of the classmates was dancing. some other kids cried too la. then when receiving cert fr the mp, he also refused to look at the camera man. in the end, the mp told me "nvm, mommy graduate instead!"

 

[kaexin]

QQ,
I miss having lunch with u gals.