Charis - wow, take gd care of ur body. This whole wk I m controlling on my spicy food co I had 2 much las wk. Ha ha ha........
As for ur SIL, well, like me, I know I can't teach, so I will nv go & bcme a teacher no matter wat other say. Cos it's either the kids will b beaten by me to death (joke) or I will die (due to 2 much anger).
As for allowance, I think it's nt fair to u. To me I feel tat, if really suffer pay cut, then by all means cut frm own expenses first, y eat into ur MIL's allowance? Also, if she knows she's gng to suffer a paycut, then in the 1st plc, has she ever thought of the consequences & hw it will affect the rest of the ppl? Also, since her hb is wking, y can't he b the one to top up wat the wife can't pay out? If they consider so much abt themselves, then y shld ur hb bother?
However, 1 thing I do nt understand, since she's giving her lesser, then y shld ur hb b the one to give her more? It's either ur MIL live w/ it or neg w/ the daughter, shld nt b someone else to help top up the diff. U r having a bb soon, & u hv more expenses coming up.
Sorry to say those comments if you find them unpleasant. Bt for me, I always believe watever my burden is, I shld nt drag others dwn. Like after I got married & I seldom cme hme, mum asked me to reduce the allowance to her cos she presume we will need more $$ for starting a family in no time. bt I told her, it's ok, I will give her the same amt, I will stl my own savings. Even when my sis got preg, mum took lesser $$ frm her, bt to me is, I will nt do tat. It means mum got lesser $$ bcos of me! Then she may hv other areas affected as well.