<font face="Comic Sans MS,"><font color="aa00aa">Adeline,</font>
If I remember correctly, my case (Jolene) and babygrace's Joshua were totally opp.
Jolene accepted Jaslyn very easily. Ever since I preggie, had been telling her many times a day, made her sayang my tummy etc. Jolene also got to mix with kids and bbs while playing at the void deck everyday. She loves babies.
I remembered mentioning to you before, it is not a wise move to send Kim to CC 2 mths after Kathlyn's arrival. It is a bad timing. It will gives Kim the impression that "becos mei mei is here, I have to leave xxx's (yr aunt) hse, I have to go CC..." or "all those belongs to me, now gotta shared with mei mei". It will be better if you can send before delivery Kathlyn. But for now, I suggest you sign up Kim for some playgroup activities to relieve your aunt. My mum went thr the phrase, I can tell you, it is really very tiring for their age. My mum got help from my bro from Mon-Wed cos my bro is off for these days and he's working nite shift. I everyday got complaint calls from my mum when I was back to work, till I saw my mum's no, I also scared.
A new sibling arrival is a big change to toddler. As parents, we need to think for their feelings. Kim will develop those feelings that "mummy/daddy/grandaunt etc etc only wants mei mei, dun want me". Dun let her feel neglected.
When I bf Jaslyn last time, Jolene insisted that she must be with me. She would sit beside me and observed, and helped me to get tissue or whatever help I needed. She never allowed me to close the door while I bf or pump. So, I just let her be with me. I don't see what's wrong with it. In fact, I would tell Jolene "mei mei is hungry, she wanna drink milk. Jie jie guai guai, dun distrub mei mei hor". Jolene would nod her head and used her finger to do those "shhh..." action.
When I napped, I leave Jaslyn to the CL. Then I would bring Jolene to nap with me. I tried to do things with Jolene alone if the situation allowed. Eg. taking nap, pump milk, eat lunch/dinner, watch TV. Let Kim gets involved with your daily life, so that she won't feel neglected. Punishing now only makes Kim "hates" her sister. Unless she really does something very bad, then punishing comes in. When Kim gets older and more sensible, more bonded with Kathlyn, you can get her involve to throw diaper, get handkerchief, get something for mei mei. She will feels herself very great being an elder sis. For now, just be more patient with Kim. The 1st 6 mths will be very tough. Once over, it's a breeze =) And you will see your 2 pretty gals growing up, then you will start to grumble they are growing so fast!! I missed that stage!</font>
