hi hi mommies
<font color="ff0000">regarding sleeping together with baby</font>.
<font color="ff6000">jerene, peachie, ilovebabies</font>, <font color="119911">hubby and me are all for attachment parenting method ever since we read up about it during pregnancy. I believe babies can develop better under attachment parenting because then they will feel loved and secure, and being secure will make them more independent and confident children later. we respond to Jovann's cries and neber let him cry for more than a minute, ever. don't believe in crying it out.

however, i do not rigidly attach baby's sleeping location with attachment parenting. though most attachment parenting advocates will prefer co-sleeping, it does not mean baby sleeping in another room means parents are not responsive or he dun feel secure.actually, before Jovann is borned we were sure I wanted to go for co-sleeping, for as long possible. during 3rd week of confinement, we tried out to let him sleep in his room and see if he is insecure (if he cries more or wake up more), but he doesnt. few reasons why we tried letting him sleep in his room...
- i am an only child and i have never felt lonely sleeping on my own in my own room, so i dun equate letting baby sleep on his own as cruel. AS LONG as I am responsive.
- and boy Am I responsive. the Swann baby monitor lets me see his every little movement and magnifies his evry sleep noise and I will jump out of bed to check on the monitor or him, to see if he is okie.
- some may say isn't it more tiring for me like that? yes in fact it is. co-sleeping has been advised for bfdg mothers partly coz of convenience. sleeping in another room means I have to walk from room to room to tend to him, but I do that because I notice he is okie with sleeping alone, and because I wld rather start young instead of waiting till he has a preference for sleeping with us, to change his habits and endure his crying and tears. just like peachie cited, some still sleep with their parents till 7yrs old and dun feel secure anywhere else. by then, its hard to change that preference.
- I do the nice things in his room with him (soetimes reading, cuddling, massaging, bathing, rocking him to nap etc) so that he feels secure and happy in his room. i have done up his room to a haven for him to rest and to be happy. i wun have his library in his room coz i wish him associate his nice bedroom with happy rest and nothing else. so its not a scary place for him at all.
- if he sleeps in our room, i notice he dun sleep well due to hubby's snoring. and the noise i make when i bathe or go toilet. we don't sleep well too coz Jovann rotates during his sleep, and bangs his legs everywhere. hehehe. but of course, these are not the main reasons for not co-sleeping lah.
hehehee okie just wanna share my views, think everyone has a diff idea of what is best for their babies.
no one's wrong, coz parenting is all about instinct isn't it?
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