babyd: I was caught in the same situations many times. Lucas still wears diapers at night when he sleeps but that's also partly we put it on for him, we are guilty of not able to wake him up in the wee morning and of course many other reasons (excuses).
Then as you know he chooses to eat only noodle and marcoroni (drop this as well now) since the day Marcus was born. So he will have his usual carrots and brocolli with soba, udon, egg pasta noodle for his every meal. Still refused to take meat. So we have been feeding him since. He doesn't like his noodle cold so that makes it more tricky to self-feed. He was able to feed by himself, sometimes he is willing to do it. On those occasions that he didn't want to or been told to do it, it will also be a showdown. I remembered one occasion @ AMK, he took so long to feed himself - complained not nice, must put ketchup, then too hot, then too cold, I think I went mad. And sometimes, he would just go on hunger strike if forced to self-feed (& he didn't want it) or it is not the usual stuff.
Then lately, we also discovered something, the main reason that he wanted us to feed him noodles is also wanting our attention, that he felt that he is being taken care of like his brother. So now, Marcus wants to be self feed, and kor kor wants to be fed. Sometimes, he will please us lots when he said he will feed himself in the restaurant. So it depends on his mood that day. We have been trying to show him that he can't have his ways all the time, sometimes a showdown but I think give him some time to understand it and I'm sure he will, given we have finally settled down after so many changes for the past 1 year.
And I too also receive remarks about Lucas's behaviour, especially from my family. I told them this boy has his mind of his own, you can't force him against his will. You can have showdown with him but you must also have the time to manage him and reconcile with him otherwise he doesn't understand. So sometimes I will respond to them like 'you tried doing it yourself and see if he will respond to it' so they have given up trying now and just give him what he wants to eat - bread, potatos which he can feed by himself, and noodles (must be fed by us).
And for the mums who ask why give him a choice, I am sorry but I think they have no clue that all children are different and to think they can impose theirs on others, I think that's it for the conversation. Mums who understand it, will fork out encouraging advice that they too have this problem and time will make it easier for all of us - let the boys have time to grow up and develop their maturity, & they will figure out on their own. Try not to focus too much on these and we forget the beauty of our boys. soory so long, but this topic really gets me up.
piggy: finally finished packing up after a few days of back breaking exercise. that really helps, I am now more emotionally stable, seeing the mess at home, makes me stressed and impatient. Now got more time for the boys, have to start spending more time with them. So brought Lucas to join me for the weekly marketing at Central Market, and them to the park cum playground yesterday. The outdoor stuff helps Lucas to release his energy, otherwise can be very pent up at home. And for my mum, she will come with my dad and brother in Oct. I am thankful that she understands, and yes I do miss her @ times.
Anyway, still bonded, so cannot talk about it for the time being. Wah 71 boxes.. well, your loft will look nice and homey with all your 'stuff'.. yah it's amazing how much 'stuff' we all need
Thought this kind of nutcase would live super long like Elizabeth Taylor like that. 