johnnywalker
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I have been feeling depressing. Affect my work, affect my daily life. Feel like giving up on us...
I am a father of a 1 yr old daughter and a husband of a wife. Sharing my thoughts here and hoping to get some help to ease my thoughts.
Most of the mothers here had problems with mil. But despite having the problem, will you still visit your husband family. How frequent? Or how frequent does your husband go back for visit? My wife keep saying that as a husband i shalln't go back so frequent where I only go back once a month. I tried to go back more frequent so to let my parents in touch with my child when her parent are the main caregiver looking after her on weekdays. Anything wrong? My parents are not as gentle as how her parents handle the kid, so everytime after a visit, she will stress on me that they shalln't do this and that.
So to prevent that, I stop bringing my kid to them.
It has been a year. And now I am seeing that my daughter is so close to her parents and no longer close to mine. I can even feel my parents not close to my daughter. I feel very depress everytime seeing her parents play with her happily while I feel my side being neglected. So I wanted to go back to my parent more frequently, about twice a month just to have dinner. But my wife comment that we do not have maid, so I am not around if I go back so frequent I am not helping. But I make sure her mother is around when I go back. Sorry all, this is only one example. I cannot even type out the whole things here because is going to be very very long story. I need a counsellor. Can anyone recommend me one?
I am a father of a 1 yr old daughter and a husband of a wife. Sharing my thoughts here and hoping to get some help to ease my thoughts.
Most of the mothers here had problems with mil. But despite having the problem, will you still visit your husband family. How frequent? Or how frequent does your husband go back for visit? My wife keep saying that as a husband i shalln't go back so frequent where I only go back once a month. I tried to go back more frequent so to let my parents in touch with my child when her parent are the main caregiver looking after her on weekdays. Anything wrong? My parents are not as gentle as how her parents handle the kid, so everytime after a visit, she will stress on me that they shalln't do this and that.
So to prevent that, I stop bringing my kid to them.
It has been a year. And now I am seeing that my daughter is so close to her parents and no longer close to mine. I can even feel my parents not close to my daughter. I feel very depress everytime seeing her parents play with her happily while I feel my side being neglected. So I wanted to go back to my parent more frequently, about twice a month just to have dinner. But my wife comment that we do not have maid, so I am not around if I go back so frequent I am not helping. But I make sure her mother is around when I go back. Sorry all, this is only one example. I cannot even type out the whole things here because is going to be very very long story. I need a counsellor. Can anyone recommend me one?