Support group - Miscarriages


ever since i joined this thread in Jan, i realised some people have left - not visited this thread anymore. and there are some who are still here, continuing to give each other support and encouragement. this is interesting.

while i dont wish to remain in this thread forever, it is good to know u ladies are strong fighters!!
 
baby_sparkles said:
ever since i joined this thread in Jan, i realised some people have left - not visited this thread anymore. and there are some who are still here, continuing to give each other support and encouragement. this is interesting.

while i dont wish to remain in this thread forever, it is good to know u ladies are strong fighters!!
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I have been quiet for awhile but I am always reading. Being preggie and coming here like insensitive so I announce give support and keep quiet.

But I see some familiar faces back so I come join.

But ladies like vac will really give a lot of motivation. I'm hoping my story to become a success then I can share.

Don't give up babe. Coming here doesn't mean something bad happens. I'm sure the rest are waiting here to hear good news from each other. :)
 
Started bleeding today. Is just like a delay period for me.. This FET is officially over today. Hopefully my next af cycle will come on time and I can go for my next FET.
Went for tcm on the other day, he said my 气very 虚, ask me to eat 清淡一点.. Haih. I thought my diet already quite 清淡enough.. Dunno how shd I eat now. Haha.
Any sister have the same issue as me?
 
hopeful_mum said:
ladies, this year last time I was preparing for my ectopic op. sorry suddenly emo. I spent my bday in the hospital last year I rem it was hazy! outside was dark etc and the haze smell was terrible. tmr is my bday, praying for good things and good fortune this year.

praying for all the ladies here to have their rainbow babies soon :)
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Happy Birthday!! I am sure this year will be an excellent year for you! Your wishes will come true.
 
Tinga said:
Started bleeding today. Is just like a delay period for me.. This FET is officially over today. Hopefully my next af cycle will come on time and I can go for my next FET.
Went for tcm on the other day, he said my 气very 虚, ask me to eat 清淡一点.. Haih. I thought my diet already quite 清淡enough.. Dunno how shd I eat now. Haha.
Any sister have the same issue as me?
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You can ask the TCM and see what you should eat. TCM sometimes can be quite vague in their reply. Have ask them specifics. Take care! Jia you!
 
vac said:
My journey was a trial n erroe

1st pregnancy in 2004
Lost bb at 22+weeks with sudden heavy bleeding that was dripping as I walked. My pte gynae told me to check n find out whats wrong and ask me to go back to govt hospital as I work there. Cheaper

2nd pregnancy in 2005
Met prof in subsidise high risk clinic n picked up my protein s and anti thrombin iii deficiency and was started with aspirin but very little know abt my condition at that time and dr not really sure abt management and all pls I am in sub so dun see prof everytime
Lost bb boy at wk 18+
Prof said next pregnancy see him personally so upgrade to pte

3rd pregnancy 2008 start clexane and aspirin asap. But that time not much understanding and no dr sheila to follow....so think my blood thickness not adequately controlled with a very low dose of clexane. So lost bb girl at 22+week. Quit.my advanced dip for bb but end up empty handed

Before 4th pregnancy found out I am diabetic n pcos....devastating cos I do not ovulate regularly. But lucky to get pregnant with lotsa overseas holiday n travelling!! Stop work n was on bed rest. This time do alot of reading n shameless asking around those dr whom I work with....found out how to monitor my blood thinning and insisted I get it while on clexane to help regulate my clexane dose. First trimester 0.3unites twice daily with insulin 3x a day n 5 glucose test prick
2nd trimester blood thinner index dropped so insist I be on higher dose so we exchange deal...get higher dose = hospitalize. So went in on the day I get my high dose. Weekly blood tests and vaginal swab. Biweekly test for protein s n factor Xa with lots of tears. No walking n lonely....but bb scan weekly is the main entertainment I get.
Stayed for 104 days total including after birth. Bb borned via csect.

Was totally grateful for them. Without them I will not have a bb at all.

Total bill:

Before hospitalization
Weekly visit abt 200/ visit
Blood tests around 500/mth depends on what was done.
=about $6k

Hospital bill $25k for hospital (mommy bill)

Son $15k icu 1mth stay.


All money well spent
I was b1 den downgrade to b2 but prof still did my csect personally.
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@vac: ur story is really encouraging and inspiring... I can't imagine hw devastated I wld be if I were in ur situation... u r really a brave mother!!

hopeful_mum said:
ladies, this year last time I was preparing for my ectopic op. sorry suddenly emo. I spent my bday in the hospital last year I rem it was hazy! outside was dark etc and the haze smell was terrible. tmr is my bday, praying for good things and good fortune this year.
praying for all the ladies here to have their rainbow babies soon :)
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@hopeful_mum: Happy blessed birthday to u!!! Tis yr is definitely going to be a good year for u!! And nxt yr tis time u will be holding ur rainbow baby in ur arms!!

baby_sparkles said:
ever since i joined this thread in Jan, i realised some people have left - not visited this thread anymore. and there are some who are still here, continuing to give each other support and encouragement. this is interesting.

while i dont wish to remain in this thread forever, it is good to know u ladies are strong fighters!!
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baby_sparkles said:
im still waiting for the day to go to mommy thread... :rolleyes:
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@baby_sparkles: I oso dun wish to remain in this thread forever!! But somehow this thread has given me so much emotional support since the day I joined... I'm oso hoping tat we can all move on to the mtb thread one day too!! So let's all jiayou ba!!
 
Tinga said:
Started bleeding today. Is just like a delay period for me.. This FET is officially over today. Hopefully my next af cycle will come on time and I can go for my next FET.
Went for tcm on the other day, he said my 气very 虚, ask me to eat 清淡一点.. Haih. I thought my diet already quite 清淡enough.. Dunno how shd I eat now. Haha.
Any sister have the same issue as me?
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@Tinga: The tcm I'm seeing oso commented tat my pulses are weak, does tat mean tat my 气 is 虚 too? Actually I dunno much on the tcm thing, its only after my recent m/c I start seeing a tcm to build bk my body coz I feel I hv a weak body constitution... I think u better clarify further with ur tcm on tis..
 
I rem I went to the famous jurong east tcm before I switch to tsb. She always tell me cut down On carbo like noodles n rice..
 
Give a hope said:
I'm so scare..there is light brown discharge. Prof replied very light shld be a fine but it really fighter me now.
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Hugs! Could it be bcoz of any recent vaginal scans u did? I had brown spotting this pregnancy too also terrified. But suspect cox cervix is irritated after the v-scan. I went in for another scan to make sure all is okay. Spotting only stopped abt 1-2weeks later.

U seeing prof on mon? Are u on any proluton jabs?
 
Pls stop moving around n just rest on bed. Try n relax. Its normal to be scared and paranoid. If u feel safer going to ED n see dr do a scan or something or even get admitted just go ahead. I went to ED weekly or biweekly due to spotting also until the dr there all know me. Hehe....must cheerup ok. Bb can feel u.
 
hopeful_mum said:
Hugs! Could it be bcoz of any recent vaginal scans u did? I had brown spotting this pregnancy too also terrified. But suspect cox cervix is irritated after the v-scan. I went in for another scan to make sure all is okay. Spotting only stopped abt 1-2weeks later.

U seeing prof on mon? Are u on any proluton jabs?
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I will be seeing dr sheila on mon. Hopefully can start ivig these two days. Really pray for the best.
Had vaginal scan on wed evening n the light discharge happened ytd evening. Really frighten me n dh ttm. Yup still jabs twice a week.
 
vac said:
Hw many wks are u now? U called prof yet?
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Texted prod w my liner. Prof said is very light brown shld be fine but it really frighten me n dh till cant zzz well.
Prof said it could be old blood but we will monitor n stabilise the pregnancy.
Now is ard 5w plus.
 
vac said:
Pls stop moving around n just rest on bed. Try n relax. Its normal to be scared and paranoid. If u feel safer going to ED n see dr do a scan or something or even get admitted just go ahead. I went to ED weekly or biweekly due to spotting also until the dr there all know me. Hehe....must cheerup ok. Bb can feel u.
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I am seeing prof every week twice. Weekday for jab n scan weekend for jab.
Yup now trying to best rest no more moving ard. I pray for good health for the bb.
 
Hi ladies, sorry to have such negative emotions this morning. Yesterday went to TCM Mr Chan, and spoken to him about the 1cm lump. He said it could have been fibroid or polyp and maybe triggled by the Chinese medicine that I am taking. He told me to stop TCM and go for detail check up which I am doing this Friday to find out that cause first. Then go back and he will help again. He said we will have to postphone TTC. My hubby got irritated and impatient. Said that we keep pushing TTC and we are not young anymore. Haiz. If feel my body is better after taking TCM but now I have to stop. Worried that my body will go back to the weak phase. And have to do everything all over again! Why nothing seems to be smooth for us? Is it a sign to tell us to give up and not to think about anything? I am super depressed. My hubby cannot take bad news. I am so afraid of asking him to go to any doc with me now because he will react very negatively if there is any bad news. Now, I just go to gynea myself without his presence. Everything is pointing towards me like it's my fault. Really really depressed.
 
Chew, it's phases that we have to go thru. Some ppl has it easy way some has to go they hurdles before reach the goal. I myself aso asked many times y it's so difficult for us. U have to encourage ur dh to go thru this hurdle together so Tat both of u will b stronger down the road. Do bear in mind w a stronger body, u can go further as well. Dun give up. I know it's depressing to hear all sorts of news but life still goes on. After all these, me n dh r/s went stronger than before as we stood together n went thru it..
 
Chew Sok Koon said:
Hi ladies, sorry to have such negative emotions this morning. Yesterday went to TCM Mr Chan, and spoken to him about the 1cm lump. He said it could have been fibroid or polyp and maybe triggled by the Chinese medicine that I am taking. He told me to stop TCM and go for detail check up which I am doing this Friday to find out that cause first. Then go back and he will help again. He said we will have to postphone TTC. My hubby got irritated and impatient. Said that we keep pushing TTC and we are not young anymore. Haiz. If feel my body is better after taking TCM but now I have to stop. Worried that my body will go back to the weak phase. And have to do everything all over again! Why nothing seems to be smooth for us? Is it a sign to tell us to give up and not to think about anything? I am super depressed. My hubby cannot take bad news. I am so afraid of asking him to go to any doc with me now because he will react very negatively if there is any bad news. Now, I just go to gynea myself without his presence. Everything is pointing towards me like it's my fault. Really really depressed.
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Hi Sok Koon, it will be better to do a detailed checkup first so tat u can decide ur next course of action and it will oso be easier for the TCM to 对症下药... things might nt be as bad as wad u tot it will be so dun gv up first... Perhaps try to hv a good talk with ur hubby and let him understand the situation u r in nw, sometimes it's good to hv hubby's support when we walked thru this difficult journey...
 
I am so lost so scared. Why when below abit pain den will have very light brown discharge? Even it is abit but it is enough to frighten me n dh. I almost break down this weekend n now waiting to c rheumatologiest at ard 1pm time seem to pass so slow. I feel so helpless. I want my bennie grow well n healthy. .I am so lost. .....
 
Give a hope said:
I am so lost so scared. Why when below abit pain den will have very light brown discharge? Even it is abit but it is enough to frighten me n dh. I almost break down this weekend n now waiting to c rheumatologiest at ard 1pm time seem to pass so slow. I feel so helpless. I want my bennie grow well n healthy. .I am so lost. .....
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Hugs. Are u seeing prof also later? Nothing I say now will make u feel better. But brown blood is still better than fresh pink. It's old blood. If u having more vaginal scans and cervix is sensitive then brown discharge may persists on for awhile. Mine lasted for 2 weeks. Beanie will be healthy. Jia you!
 
hopeful_mum said:
Hugs. Are u seeing prof also later? Nothing I say now will make u feel better. But brown blood is still better than fresh pink. It's old blood. If u having more vaginal scans and cervix is sensitive then brown discharge may persists on for awhile. Mine lasted for 2 weeks. Beanie will be healthy. Jia you!
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Nope later only dr sheila.
I pray hard it is due to v scan.
I felt lost n scared as my 2nd mc all the way dark brown discharge from little till need to use pads. Actually not just fresh blood is alarming whereas brown discharge also not a good sign according to prof n dr sheila.
 
Give a hope said:
Nope later only dr sheila.
I pray hard it is due to v scan.
I felt lost n scared as my 2nd mc all the way dark brown discharge from little till need to use pads. Actually not just fresh blood is alarming whereas brown discharge also not a good sign according to prof n dr sheila.
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I know but u don't want to think that it's a bad sign now. My miscarriages also started with brown to red. So I really feel ur fear. When do u get to see prof for a scan to ease ur mind? How far along are u already?
 
hopeful_mum said:
I know but u don't want to think that it's a bad sign now. My miscarriages also started with brown to red. So I really feel ur fear. When do u get to see prof for a scan to ease ur mind? How far along are u already?
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Ya the fear really killing ppl.
I will be seeing prof on sat for the scan postponed from tmr to sat as prof said I shld be able to get my treatment tmr if dr sheila order today.
Today shld be 6w3d if everything alright.
 
Giveahope, try to have confidence in ur bb inside. Bb can sense ur fear. Though it's hard to ignore the fear, wat u can do now is b calm n face one test after another together w bb..
 

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