hi all,
decided to drop by after seeing anne's posting. i have been following this thread since last sept when i had my miscarriage due to blighted ovum at week 7. at first quite reluctant to post but seeing anne's posting, i feel that may be i should also give some support to her and to all of you.
my 1st MC is due to blighted ovum. No heartbeat detected all the way till the day for D&C. I still remember my D&C vividly and how i cried when the nurses wheeled me to the operating theatre and how they wiped my tears and consoled me and distracted me when administering the drug to start the procedure..They were so sweet. 3 months later which is Jan 2007 i conceived again and now i'm 5 months pregnant with a baby girl.
I had my detailed scan last week and everything's fine as far as the scan could tell. And i chose not to go through any DS tests because no matter what i'm determine to keep this baby. My miscarriage has made me treasure my current pregnancy and I believe God was preparing me for motherhood because in my 1st pregnancy, deep inside me I was half-heartedly happy with the news.
Just want to tell anne that I understand her fear. It's normal to feel this way and till now, I'm still jittery over my pregnancy eventhough i'm in my 2nd trimester. Everyday, i will not fail to check my undies but thank God somehow i felt that this pregnancy is somewhat different. No spotting and no urgency to urine during the night in my 1st trimester. Less tired too..Every checkup, the first thing i asked the gynae: Is the heartbeat still there? Is my baby growing? It's only now, i've plucked my courage to share with you. Seriously speaking, i'm still not 100% confident in my pregnancy but i will try to be! That's what we should do. I've learned to be a little relax in my pregnancy too and not too hard on myself. I allowed myself to sip coffee, tea, to drink cold drink occasionally, to eat sashima once in a while unlike my 1st pregnancy where i was too strict with my diet. So, Anne, jia you!
To the rest, just to share, I had spotting from the day of my D&C for 3 consecutive weeks almost every single day - fresh blood. My gynae told me that it's a good sign because that means the womb lining is shedding the old blood and healing. I was very worried abt womb scaring but my gynae said she did not scrape clean my womb to prevent injuries. I guess that's why i had spotting. Exactly 1 mth after my D&C, i had my 1st menses - heavy but not much blood clot like i used to. It lasted abt 7 days.
I did a mini confinement by myself. Gynae give me 1 week MC and i made myself tonic soup everyday (ba zhen, se chuan ta bao, black chicken soup with dang gui tou), cooked sesame oil with chicken and lots of ginger, cook rice wine chicken soup and drink a glass of DOM every evening. the only thing i didn't do it is i still bath with normal water. The food that i ate made me so heaty that i had black stool! and that made me stopped.. haha
But i continue to drink DOM and double-boiled cordyceps with lean meat once every 1 or 2 weeks because my aunt told me it's good for womb. After D&C i didn't really let my body rest 3 months like what gynae said and we did not take any precaution because i was told that usually woman will be very fertile after an MC. But at the same time we never really tried to TTC so that not to give ourself pressure. Just let nature take its own course. But of course, i did continuosly take note of my cycle and diligently marked my calendar when i had my 1st mense, 2nd mense and 3rd mense. I still need to monitor my ovulation period and as far as possible, we ML during the period. I didn't even want to use the ovulation kit. Then who knows in Jan, i conceived!
I'm still praying very hard everyday that I will be able to carry my baby till full term with no complication and that my baby will be born healthy. I've began to feel my baby kicking and can see movement in my tummy occasionally now.
So, to all of you, don't give up, monitor your cycle, try to ML during your fertile period and if you feel like ML, just do it without thinking whether you'll hit the jackpot or not. Some day, you'll be suprised how your body works in a funny way
Baby dust to all of you who is TTCing and may God bless you
P.S: Sorry for such a long posting
