Support group - Miscarriages


hi gillian, since u did nt went thru D&C, did ur gynae give u pills to prevent infection ? i do have more cramps for the 3rd cycle..but 1st & 2nd cycle after my D&C in feb is ok. not much cramps..dunno why the 3rd cycle feel more cramps..anyway this cycle is completed and i feel ok now. mayb u will want to see ur gynae for a scan and hope everything is fine then u can start ttc soon. take care.
 
Jappooh - nice hearing from you! and thank god that the NT scan was good.. envious wor!!! hope ur MS goes away soon so taht you can enjoy the pregnancy
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Porky - jia you! all the best in ur TTC this month..
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cheekz - y not u try clearblue? i think with clearblue, the result will be very clear and all the best to you also !
 
Hi Jappooh

Very happy for you. You are a good example of having a healthy pregnancy after the miscarriage. Hope your MS will go away very soon.

Hi Cheekz

Let us know your result k? Meanwhile, stay positive!

Hi Aileen

You are in DPO7 le? You are on halfway mark in 2ww. Any symptoms yet? Mine is only DPO4. Still long way. Hope AF will not come at all. Hope you will strike this time.

Hi Gillian

Could your cramps be related to pregnancy? Are you waiting for AF to come?
 
Hi Magpie, porky, thanks for replying.

Magpie, yes, im in 2ww now, but even before O, i still feel crampy too, sometime the cramp is a sharp pain that i will give a soft ouch, which i have never done that before my m/c... so, really duno wat had happened

Porky, nope, my gynae did not give me an medicine to expel out. just naturally... we only follow up closely on the blood test for hcg, no scanning after confirming that sac has been expelled, although at that time hcg level is still high..

hi jappooh, nice hearing everything is ok over your end
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its still worth suffering those MS when baby is healthy inside you.. i dun mind having bad ms too as long as its a healthy pregnancy.. but still must see if im fated to have a healthy child..
 
Hi Cheekz,
I am oso experiencing preggie symptoms occasionally.I don't hv appetite n sometx feel like vomit after meal.It has been 13days after my dne n i notice i've some cervical mucus.Think i'm ovulating.But cant be bothered coz only plan ttc after a yr.

I've ever read fr. somewhere tat not many women experience implanation bleeding.For me,I didn't even experience for my 3 preggie.

Gilian,
After my 1st dnc,i experienced cramping when my O-day was approaching.I guess it might b due to our cycles had haywire.Before my dnc,i've nvr experienced any cramping b4 or during menses/ovulation.

Hi Bubbleteahut,
i heard abt Misoprostol.In fact,i asked one of the gynae if he can use this drug to induce m/c but he mentioned this drug is not legal in S'pore.It is more commonly used in USA.
 
Gilian,
ur gynae shld ask to c u, at least 1wk after the m/c.He nid to scan n make sure ur womb is cleared after m/c.My gynae oso did a quick chk of my vaginal n made sure i've no unusual discharge n infection.
 
Cheekz,
Agree wf Aileen tat u shld try Clearblue.For my case, i used Clearblue for my 3rd preggie(coz very kan cheong to find out),and Watson preggie test kit for 1st n 2nd preggie.
 
magpie, im now DPO8.. expecting AF to come next thu or fri... if strike, i also scare of cramp.. coz cramp for my last pregnancy doesn't look good at all... hai... so ma fan hor... avocado, ya, i also feel that.. because the last scan my gynae did on me, sac was confirm gone but still having pregnancy activity at my right ovary... and now its always my right ovary feel pain... i scare i go over to the clinic, they think i da jin xiao gui, so better check with you all if this is normal

As for swimming, im not too sure coz i seldom swim, heez
 
Hi Avocado, thanks for ur info on Misoprostol. Great that u asked ur gynae becoz I only heard abt this mtd after my d&c. Its quite depressing to know Singapore is still so primitive. Anyway, I heard fr my sis that she has an ex-col that went for an abortion at 6wks & her doc then gave her a pill to insert at cervix to induce a mc. She's lost touch wif tis col & it happened many yrs ago, so can't check again.

Don't thk that swimming dries up mucus fr my experience. But during my last preg, I tried to avoid due to incr risk of getting yeast infection. Even if not preg, I heard yeast infection can produce hostile mucus that kills sperm. Maybe don't hve to avoid swimming altogether but just make sure if got that itchy feel, go check with GP b4 ttc.

Hi Gillian, I agree with Avocado that u sld go do a scan after mc to ensure ur womb is in gd shape. I did experience very sharp pain/cramps on the left side and pain spread to whole of womb area after my d&C and went to gynae for scan. It was confirmed to be ovulation pain that caused "ripple like pain" all the way to womb. Don't worry what they think k, womb is urs and womb is very impt leh. Mininum must check once after d&c.
 
hi bubbleteahut,
I oso heard abt insert the pill to induce a m/c from one of ladies in this forum.I can't recall her name but I rememb her gynae is Dr Ng Soon Chye.

Gilian,
Try to seek 2nd opinion if ur gynae bo chap to chk for u.Actuali,after my 2m/c,i realise i shld care abt myself more.

Afterall,after my 1st m/c,my colleagues(who i helped them a lot)just passed a stupid remark:miscarriage?no big deal.I was reali so disappointed...luckily,i've resigned n i nvr keep contact wf them anymore.

So don't care, just make an appt to see ur gynae.U pay for ur consultation fees.If he gives u those type don't bother attitude,just look for other gynae.
 
Hi Gillian

I had cramps when i was expecting which also ended up in miscarriage. But I still see this as a sign of pregnancy. Cramps can be normal.

Anyway, these days, sometimes I have experienced tightednss in my tummy and sometimes a bit of pulling. It cannot be implantation cos me only DPO4.
 
Bubbleteahut,
Swimming is one of my fav hobbies.Hmm..since now I'm not TTC,it's shld b ok to swim..But my legs very cramped after swimming last Tues.The joints r still aching now till i've to put Salonpas.

Hi Ladies,
I wonder if I am normal again...coz i somehow very turn off when my hb tried to intimate wf me.Thinking tat if it might b his prob tat caused my m/c, or it is his selfishness n unoperative during we ttc last time.he refused to tak multivit or other vitamins...

Do anyone of u hv this kinda feelings?
 
Hi all

sorry too many to name all but thanks so much for all your responses, i am very heartened by all your support!

sorry, i MIA earlier today. brought my daughter to the zoo early this morning and after i got back, had to feed, bathe her and now preparing dinner...popping in just for awhile ; P

my AF arrived this morning...i was walking ard the zoo with a v painful feeling @ u know where and my lower back also cramping...but its ok, running after my daughter distracts me from the pain...so tired now!

Porky,
i am just like u! first cycle after DnC no cramping...but now its heavy and clotty. Only first day!

jappooh,
so happy to hear bout ur baby again : ) Wow, week 13! is ur MS better?

Thanks so much ladies for replying...i really learned alot from here. Also, good to share experiences, at least we know what to look out for...

I'll try using the OPK for next cycle. Anyone used before?
 
ya, actually i wanted to look for another gynae, but thinking that this current one has all my record. so if to look for another one, might have to feed him or her with alot of information, and scare i miss out anything. maybe i give myself sometime to monitor my pain, if still the same, then i will go back on my next cycle..

avocado, after my miscarriage, i turn down a few intimate moment coz wanted to give my womb sometime to rest. did not angry with him for the miscarriage because its the first time i saw tears in his eye when i was crying like mad after knowing the sac wasn't growing. i can see that he is equally upset and also trying hard to console me etc.. although i know that my health has no problem at all, whereas he has low sperm count etc

why not have a good talk with your hubby?
 
Hi Cheekz,

great that your AF reported...so that u can start TTC. As for me, will be seeing my gynae tmr as I'm feeling so bloated from the late menses. Shall keep u updated then.
 
Gilian,
Last time,i used to tink like u..lazy to chg gynae.However,I realise my previous gynae who i've stick to him fr 5yrs,can't provide the kinda diagnose n tests which i wanna.I went to c 5gynaes fr my 3rd preggie...These gynae kept asking me why didn't my previous gynae did any test to my 1st m/c...he shld at least perform some basic test.
Imagine i repeated my medical history to these 5gynaes.I brought along all my medical records:Xray,blood tests....Now i finally found a gynae who i'm comfortable wf,despite all the hassle tat i gone thru.
Despite i've been seeing my previous gynae fr 5yrs,i still hv to repeat my medical history to him bcoz he has so many patients n he might not remember my history.I tink he oso didn't bother to flip thru my medical records.Each time i visited him,i've to briefly tell him my medical history again.since in this case,i might as well go for another gynae.
Now our lives is back to normal,don't feel like bringing the topic of my m/c,or else,it'll upset everyone...We r oso waiting for the chromosome result,then decide wat to do next.
 
Hi Avocado, actually I also love swimming and not being able to swim due my concerns is like having hands tied up. I also like to eat sashimi a lot...and when I can finally hve a successful preg or reach 40 and had to give up ttc, I will swim and eat sashimi everyday!..heeee..

But must take care and not overstrain ur becoz during preg, the hormones loosen our joints to prepare and if u still have some of those hormones left, u r more vulnerable to injuries. So take care.

Thanks for ur wonderful info on Prof Ng offering that procedure. I will definitely check that out. Its an impt finding.

And for avoiding hubby, we decided to avoid sex for at least 1 mth after D&C so no such headache. Also, 4 my case, hubby is the victim plus like gillian, I also saw him cry for the 1st time for both my mcs. So I am the so called "baddie". But I still believe ur hubby dotes on u and u two hve a great product (ur son) together and that is living proof. What ur r feeling is a common syndrome fr some experiences I read becoz intimacy reminds u of loss. So u will pass it k..

Cheekz, great there is a conclusion for u now. I never use opk but I heard that are cheaper opk u can buy from auction site. Maybe can check them out.
 
Hi everyone,

TGIF!

My AF is super heavy this time round. With big lumpy clots, quite similar to what I had after I gave birth (altho in lesser quantity). The cramps are terrible. I didn't get this after DnC or the 1st cycle after that.

Infact after and before giving birth, my cramps were never as bad as this.

I wonder why some periods are just heavier than others? I don't really care in the past, but now I am wondering why?

Kymta,
I'll pray for good news for u : )
Pls take care and TGIF!


Hi bubbleteahut,

great to hear from u today : )
TGIF!

Hi Avocado,
Prof ng sounds like a nice guy. Will ask u more bout him if we change gynae. pls take care, its the weekend. Hope u have a great one with ur loved ones : )
 
hi cheekz, same as me..mine 3rd cycle also very clotty/lumpy and lots of painful cramps..heavy flow for 4 whole days then 5th day only spotting. i thot if still heavy flow until 5th day i wanna see gynae liao..lucky it stop completely on 7th day. i hope u are fine. try to bear with it. drink warm water might help to ease the cramps. it does for me..take care
 
Hi cheekz,

seen dr today. Menses haywire probably due to stress... dr prescribed me noreristhone (5 days) to induce menses and also clomid to stimulate my eggs. I got to learn to relax ohh....
 
Hi all
Doc cfm i had ectopic preg. was abt 6wks. had my surgery to remove but my left fallopian tube, at wh i was growing, was removed oso. sorry, i sh say they vcos Dr Loh tsfr 2 embryos for me.
hope my mense cycle won't go haywire after this.
 
Hi,mricky, sorry to hear about your condition.dun give up.I know someone who had only 1 fallopian tube able to conceive and give birth, triplets (with IVF)....so, continue to take care of yourself
 
Hi ladies.. mi juz had M/C on 14jun after bb suddenly lost heartbeat at 8wks+... bb still ok on 13jun. did D&C on 17jun, so fast two weeks past liao. nt sure when AF will report coz mine was super irregular, so my gynea prescibed mi with Sunalut to take for 20days to regulate AF.

nt sure if i shd start to TTC on tis round of AF. when i asked him before D&C, he said i shd TTC on 2nd cycle of AF. TCM doc said the same.. but last week he said i can TTC on the coming AF which is oni the 1st cycle. rather confused nw.

btw, when can we start to BD after the D&C?

Jappooh, glad to hear that ur baby is well. Hope ur MS gets better.
 
hi bluberi, sorry to see u here..and yes. i do agree that time pass very fast after D&C. my gynae also suggest that i TTC after 2nd cycle of AF. however, after the 1st cycle, he give me green light to TTC already. he scan and say i am ok to TTC so i just go ahead. as for BD, if ur bleeding stop then shd be ok. take care ger.
 
Porky, my gynea said can TTC on 2nd AF cycle leh, nt after 2nd AF cycle (u mean as in the 3rd AF cycle?). but nw since gynea said i can go ahead to TTC on tis 1st AF cycle.. i'm quite tempted to do so.. but i doubt will be so lucky to strike with juz one try again. my hubby nt keen to even BD nw.. he said he will BD oni when when i ovulate during 2nd AF cycle. i koe hubby is hoping my body can take tis period recover than BD but i told him we can both be monk n nun liao if we really BD oni during 2nd AF cycle. lol
 
hi cheekz,
i heard abt Prof Ng from one of ladies in this forum. I hv not visited him b4.

I oso heard tat Prof Biswa is very good oso.Is anyone seeing him?

hi bluberi,
sorry to know abt ur m/c.My gynae advised me to try after 3mth.To play safe,6mth shld b more appropriate...

wat is Sunalut?is it a type of hormone pill?
 
bluberi, yes my gynae also say i can try immediately after 1st AF is completed. that means still not start of 2nd cycle, i already can TTC. u can strike also even if ur 1st AF did not report. we have successful case here. hehe. but is best to allow ur body to rest first before BD lah..if u feel ur body is ready, then u can go ahead. for me, we also monk and nun for 3months. (after know preggy then lost and D&C...) take care
 
Hi gals,

I know i may sound stupid to ask u all this questions. but a lot question keep on bother me since i found out i am pregenant while i was on medincal. i am so confuse.

I would like to know that if baby heartbeat stop at 8-12 weeks. What syptom do we face? Bleeding only. Or nothing is occur until we saw the gyne?

If stop, will they perform abortion system to take out the baby?
 
bluberi, thats great ! have a short trip to relax urself and also have the mood to TTC right. hehe. hope to hear gd news from u after u come back ya. too bad my hb cant take leave to go short trip with me...
 
Hi Porky,
Lucky the cramps eased after 2 days. AF stopped yesterday. I am trying out OPKs this time round to see if I actually ovulate anot!

Mrick, bluberi,
sorry to hear bout ur loss..

hi snow,
for me, i really had no idea i lost the baby till gynae told me...no warning signs at all...
i was still having MS coz the hormones were still supporting the pregnancy altho the foetus has died...

hope everything will be ok for u.
 
hi snow, there is no stupid questions here. we share and encourgae each other. did u stop ur medication once u know u are pregnant ? to be frank, there is no symthoms sometimes when bb stop heartbeat. for me, i am ok for 1 whole week. and even get all the preggy symthoms like normal. then spotting for few hours..scarly doct scan and say my bb is gone..dunno how to react..my gynae suggest D&C to wash the womb. cos he worried too much bleeding will occur if i opt for natural m/c. so i just go ahead. come in and chat with u if u have the time. is best to say it out then keep inside ur heart. take care.
 
Bluberi - hope you strike during ur Bangkok trip! keep us posted
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Snow - like what the others say, there are no signs to tell you bb is not growing. its the gynae visit that gave the rude shock... do take care of urself...

Porky - *waves* long time no 'see'.. hows ur TTC coming along? me DPO 12 now, abit kan cheong to test but still waiting it out..
 
hi gals

For those who had read about the past threads.. i had a D&C done on 02 July last year, cannot detect heartbeat at 8 weeks and HCG level keep going down...

Very very sad cos its my first pregnancy and kept on blaming myself... luckily the gals are very supportive and listened to my woes and sorrows...and thats how i managed to get thru...

I'm now a mother of a pair of identical twin babes so i hope my story and experience will help those who are depressed and have little confidence in conceiving again...

My gynae said can BD after 2 weeks of D&C but TTC only at the 3rd cycle. However, i decided to 'bu' myself so went to visit a TCM and took his medication which is to 'bu' also to regulate my AF. He advise not to BD for the next 54 days and after which i can TTC liao, which is only my 2nd AF.

I prefered to listen to the TCM as i anxiously wanted to make up for the loss. I was very fortunate to conceive again in Oct'07.

I also went back to my same gynae (after alot of deliberation) and he gave me injections every weeks till i gave birth...


Snow,
we will not feel anything...can only detect by ultra sound or you had a lot of red bleeding...
 
Porky, i had to stress to my hubby many times dats it's ok to BD n TTC den he agreed to it. the bkk trip was planned before i got preggie. tot was a chance to get bb clothes in bkk, nw is to R&R and TTC again.

Thanks Aileen! i hope God will grant my wish send us our angel again.

ya, i also no warning when bb lost heartbeat until i went for scanning aft my 2nd spotting. oni had really bad cramps.
 
Hi gals,

Thank you very much for giving me a listening ear.

I do stop the medinincial once i found out that i am prgenant. To make the story short and simply. This is how it goes:

I confirm took one the medinice on the 19th April and stop. Mense come on 21st april. I think on the 2nd or 15th May I took one again and stop. ( not sure do I took on 15th a not). Then 18th May dark brown discharge maybe due to implant bleeding. ( I thought is Mense) But 21st I test I was pregnant.

The medince which i was taking and was advise to stop for one month before geting pregnant.

Can you tell advise me what to do
 
snow

btw, i had brown spotting before i found out there's no heartbeat...was ordered bedrest but i was not a good gal... went to vacumm somemore then found out i got red spotting..

D&C = Dilation and cuttage ( not so sure of spelling but it's a kind of operation to remove the embroy inside)

BD = baby dance (make love)
 
Its not painful as i'm under GA (unconsious)...my gynae only gave me 3 days mc whereas some gave much longer... mine was under the package i signed out...about $500.
 
snow, u wun feel a thing as u will be asleep during D&C. i didn't feel any pain when i wake up aft D&C though i was prescibed with painkillers. was bleeding for abt 2-days den spotting for abt a wk.

i did mine at TMC.. it cost $998.89 in which $620 (doc fee can be paid by medisave), bal $378.8 to be paid by our own. muz pay $500 deposit upon admission. i was admitted at 7am n discharged at 10.15am.

u can also claim $480 fm ur medisave for the antenatal package (remember to bring all receipts) which is used to offset the bal $378.89. they will refund the balance of the $480 if any is left by cheque in 3wks time with the $500 deposit.

btw, i was given 10days hospitalisation leave.
 
hi aileen, long time no see leh. hehe. me still TTC lah. did not strike last cycle. must relax and BD more loh. haha. i also hope u can strike this cycle. must tell me ok ?

bluberi, mayb ur hb do not wan to BD or TTC now is cos he is worried abt your body. guys do not know how to express themselves very well. dont get the wrong idea that he does not love u ok ? hehe. my hb also feel sad abt our lost. and refused to BD with me too..at first i thot he blame me..(cos i go to wash toilet when i got spotting...) after that he told me is that he wan me to rest my body first before we start TTC again. feel so touch after hearing that..

snow, like the other gals said. u will feel nothing at all during D&C. is a super fast procedure. u will be knock out (GA) and wake up, everything is over le. my cost is abt $1100. do not need to pay anything by cash. all deducted already. my gynae gave me 14days leave and still ask me enough or not. so nice of him. hehe

hi bb08, wow u got a twins now. God is good. he gave u back ur lost BB. so u got 2 now. we hope God will give us back our BB too. all the best to us !
 
Hi gals,
i am back to work yesterday. Was forcing myself to work. Have very bad headache but paisei to go and take MC again. Now cant wait for 6pm another 3 hrs to go. I keep feel giddy on and off endup i dun wan to leave my desk at all.

When are all these gg to stop.
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hi porky,
ur DnC cost about the same as mine...actually, i didn't realise it was so ex until my fren told me that hers is only $600...

do u know why some places is more? mine was done @ the clinic by my gynae. My fren also the same but diff gynae.

what do u mean no need to pay anything in cash?

my gynae also gave about 2 weeks leave.
 



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