newlosthusband
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My wife and I got ROM in early this year. Both of us are in our first relationship.
Sadly.our marriage seems broken down down for now and looks toward annulment.
I am looking to save the marriage
The official reason that she give me is that she is scared of intimacy/sex during our last talk.
She mentioned she felt uncomfortable when we had our first few intimacy, but she was curious and thought she will get used to it as we moved towards ROM.
Things got bad after ROM, as she mentioned that, instead of getting more comfortable, it is getting more uncomfortable and chore for her.
I admit it is partly my fault for failing to notice her uneasiness. She also admitted for her part for not letting me know her uneasiness sooner.
During intimacy period that we had, I had only reached 2nd base with her, while she reached 3rd base with me.
She mentioned that she wished to wait till the chinese wedding night, in which i didn't force her to consume the marriage and respected her wish.
We had looked forward our BTO and booked wedding banquet and gown this year.
Since we know there are issues for us, I convery my wish to her that we hold each other's hand and work this issue our together, like marriage counseling/sex therapy.
Sadly, she isn't much willing to do that.
As her husband, I am very distraught at what happened.
Would appreciate any advice....
Sadly.our marriage seems broken down down for now and looks toward annulment.
I am looking to save the marriage
The official reason that she give me is that she is scared of intimacy/sex during our last talk.
She mentioned she felt uncomfortable when we had our first few intimacy, but she was curious and thought she will get used to it as we moved towards ROM.
Things got bad after ROM, as she mentioned that, instead of getting more comfortable, it is getting more uncomfortable and chore for her.
I admit it is partly my fault for failing to notice her uneasiness. She also admitted for her part for not letting me know her uneasiness sooner.
During intimacy period that we had, I had only reached 2nd base with her, while she reached 3rd base with me.
She mentioned that she wished to wait till the chinese wedding night, in which i didn't force her to consume the marriage and respected her wish.
We had looked forward our BTO and booked wedding banquet and gown this year.
Since we know there are issues for us, I convery my wish to her that we hold each other's hand and work this issue our together, like marriage counseling/sex therapy.
Sadly, she isn't much willing to do that.
As her husband, I am very distraught at what happened.
Would appreciate any advice....