Yesterday had shouting session with my MIL of 10 years. Not the 1st time nor will it be the last. Anyway, I only need to see her from Mon to Fri as she will be staying with us to help us in looking after my 2 kids (mainly my son as he is only attending 3 hrs of kindergarten ).
The argument started very sudden. What trigger the argument was a very simple question that I asked my son :"Boy do you want to continue drawing lesson? Mummy is going to pay term fees tomorrow. If you want, you will need to complete the term."
Then my MIL suddenly interrupted our conversation by accusing me of not letting my son to continue drawing lesson. She went on saying we are biased. Dot my daughter more. Pay more attention to my daughter and not spending time with my son... blah blah blah. I told her that my son did indicated to us previously that he does not want to go for the class.. thus we need to check with him before paying the term fee of close to $400. Then she started to critise the school by repeating an isolated case of having 1 teacher to the class of 10 plus students. She was obviously not happy with the 1 off case of 1 teacher to 10 plus kids. I telling her that there are 2 teachers in the class. That incident was because 1 of the teacher happened to be sick on that day ... if the students get too rowdy naturally the teacher will reprimanded them..
She went on saying we deprive my son of everything... Din let him learn this n that.... the list went on and on... I was boiling at that time because she is the one who scolded us for sending my son to swimming lesson. She is also the one who refuses to let my son go to student care... she is the one who stopped this and that. .. I tried to reasoned with her... then she continued non stop...
Then she turn the topic to coaching my kids on school work.. she commented that I coach my daughter (who is in Primary 1 this year) more as compared to my son... she expected me to sit there watching my son to write his 习字 and complete his homework at night cos she din bother to ask him to finish these during the day. I tried to explain that my daughter's load is much heavier. My time spent was revising her on the syllabus rather than to sit there watching her doing her homework. I also highlight to her that i need to spend more time with her as she has lots of mini tests during the year.. and also my son is only 5 years old.. we want him to enjoy now before going to K2 next yr where the load will be heavier.
Then the topic got side tracked to accusations of us I'll treating my son. Her rational is simple... kids shd survive on milk powder... I told her that a 5 years old shd not have 5 portions of milk in their diet... it is too much.. but she insisted that she is correct because she has raised 2 children.. she blamed me for my son's stomach and diarrhea. . Citing that my son won't have diarrhea nor stomach when she is at home.. citing that we don't want to spend money buying milk powder. . Do you how how fast is the consumption of the 1.8kg milk powder? Within a week. That is scary...
Then she starts to get personal. Saying that we don't know how to teach my daughter because my daughter will talk back to her.. as for my son (her only grand son) will follow all her instructions obediently.... then she divert the topic to my sibling. Commenting on my younger brother's occupation. . Saying that it is of low class... blah blah blah.. my brother is working in health sector and he also has a master degree (though is not from local uni).... then she continued to infer that my parents don't know how to teach us. ... blah blah blah...
I snapped upon hearing this... then the conversation diverted to my elder brother. . She said that he is also useless cos he can't stay in singapore to work .. blah blah blah.. excuse me, I really don't know her definition of useless...my brother is a regional director of a 5 star hotel ... is his career classified as useless? My elder brother was posted out of singapore due to his promotion. From local to SEA and now is East Asia director.. he is currently in HK because the East Asia office is in HK... btw he is a local degree holder with sponsored MBA and a few certification. ..
The conversation went on n on... till I got fed up that I treated her invisible. .
I am praying everyday that one day she will choose to leave us alone. Really leave use alone because currently she will also check on us on our activities during weekends or days whereby we don't need her to come over. She will asked my kids what did we do, what we eat and the content of our conversation...
PS: Both her children are not high flyer. Normal working class ..
The argument started very sudden. What trigger the argument was a very simple question that I asked my son :"Boy do you want to continue drawing lesson? Mummy is going to pay term fees tomorrow. If you want, you will need to complete the term."
Then my MIL suddenly interrupted our conversation by accusing me of not letting my son to continue drawing lesson. She went on saying we are biased. Dot my daughter more. Pay more attention to my daughter and not spending time with my son... blah blah blah. I told her that my son did indicated to us previously that he does not want to go for the class.. thus we need to check with him before paying the term fee of close to $400. Then she started to critise the school by repeating an isolated case of having 1 teacher to the class of 10 plus students. She was obviously not happy with the 1 off case of 1 teacher to 10 plus kids. I telling her that there are 2 teachers in the class. That incident was because 1 of the teacher happened to be sick on that day ... if the students get too rowdy naturally the teacher will reprimanded them..
She went on saying we deprive my son of everything... Din let him learn this n that.... the list went on and on... I was boiling at that time because she is the one who scolded us for sending my son to swimming lesson. She is also the one who refuses to let my son go to student care... she is the one who stopped this and that. .. I tried to reasoned with her... then she continued non stop...
Then she turn the topic to coaching my kids on school work.. she commented that I coach my daughter (who is in Primary 1 this year) more as compared to my son... she expected me to sit there watching my son to write his 习字 and complete his homework at night cos she din bother to ask him to finish these during the day. I tried to explain that my daughter's load is much heavier. My time spent was revising her on the syllabus rather than to sit there watching her doing her homework. I also highlight to her that i need to spend more time with her as she has lots of mini tests during the year.. and also my son is only 5 years old.. we want him to enjoy now before going to K2 next yr where the load will be heavier.
Then the topic got side tracked to accusations of us I'll treating my son. Her rational is simple... kids shd survive on milk powder... I told her that a 5 years old shd not have 5 portions of milk in their diet... it is too much.. but she insisted that she is correct because she has raised 2 children.. she blamed me for my son's stomach and diarrhea. . Citing that my son won't have diarrhea nor stomach when she is at home.. citing that we don't want to spend money buying milk powder. . Do you how how fast is the consumption of the 1.8kg milk powder? Within a week. That is scary...
Then she starts to get personal. Saying that we don't know how to teach my daughter because my daughter will talk back to her.. as for my son (her only grand son) will follow all her instructions obediently.... then she divert the topic to my sibling. Commenting on my younger brother's occupation. . Saying that it is of low class... blah blah blah.. my brother is working in health sector and he also has a master degree (though is not from local uni).... then she continued to infer that my parents don't know how to teach us. ... blah blah blah...
I snapped upon hearing this... then the conversation diverted to my elder brother. . She said that he is also useless cos he can't stay in singapore to work .. blah blah blah.. excuse me, I really don't know her definition of useless...my brother is a regional director of a 5 star hotel ... is his career classified as useless? My elder brother was posted out of singapore due to his promotion. From local to SEA and now is East Asia director.. he is currently in HK because the East Asia office is in HK... btw he is a local degree holder with sponsored MBA and a few certification. ..
The conversation went on n on... till I got fed up that I treated her invisible. .
I am praying everyday that one day she will choose to leave us alone. Really leave use alone because currently she will also check on us on our activities during weekends or days whereby we don't need her to come over. She will asked my kids what did we do, what we eat and the content of our conversation...
PS: Both her children are not high flyer. Normal working class ..
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