Bbhp,
I saw your post and wanted to encourage you. Not sure how big are your twins now? Initial few months are very tough and you really need to stay strong to move on.
I am also having a pair of twins and really not easy in the begining and like what you have mentioned, some time they dont want to sleep at night and will start making noise. It greatly affect our sleep especially HB has to work next day. And to add, we dont have any helper in the begining. It is just my HB and I taking take at night and my parents will come and help out in the day when my HD goes to work.
If 1 bb is making noise and is affecting the other one, separating them is better. Me n my HB slept in 2 rooms with 1 bb each so as not to awake the 3 other if we are all in the same room. It helps us with more quailty sleep and we can actually sleep longer.
For night feeds, unfortunately my are premies and i m not comfortable to skip night feeding. However, i tried to have it longer hours gradually. It is only when i resumed work (4th mth)that i start to skip night feeding. But my last feed is very late(starting from 11.30pm, 10.30pm,10pm,9pm, 8.30pm) with 1st morning feed at abt 4.30am than 5.00am and also gradually delaying when they are bigger (then 5.30 am, 6.00am 7.00 or 8.00am n sometime 9am on a weekend).
Now even thought i dun wake up to feed them, i still wake up a few times throughout the night to cover blanket for them as they like to kick off their blanket. Heehee...
1st few months are really tough with no fun at all. We cried at how tough it was getting, how difficult it could be.... but all these are life experiences... Looking back, we can only say, Time flies and smile at the memories.
Every stage of the babies growing process is the best moment and it is not true to say " it is better when they are able to crawl/sit/walk/stand" as each skills that they accquired, it will bring new issues.
We initally thot when they are still newborn that if they are bigger, we will have more time. Not true. Now we have lesser time bcos since they became mobile and starting to explore everything, someone has to be by their side all the time to ensure safety.
And yes, a helper is indeed necessary. We suffered till bbs are abt 10th mth (bringing them back daily to n forth from parents place, preparing, cooking porridge, washing utensils, slow cooker pot, milk bottles, bb clothes and our clothes (yes i m working too)is simply madness. The helper only came when my bbies are 1year old. But we can feel the great diff between having one and without. We can now have more time to do our own stuffs which we are depriving off in the past 1 year.
My babies (maybe not babies anymore
) are coming to 15mths soon. I am very grateful for all these, even though it is not easy at all and frustrations do come and "visit", together with "impatient", but just remembered that it will all be over (tough period) soon and the joy will kick in when u see them developing well.
Jia you to all mummies and enjoy it all. Now perhaps, to me, pregnancy stage is the best
, although i wont want a 3rd anymore.
